Anitta: Secretos Para un Buen Sexo, Twerking y Mamadas (Spanish Subtitles) [VIDEO]
2023-05-17 00:46:06
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Anita Welcome to call her daddy. Thank you Daddy gang. We are in the presence of truly someone that is just doing it all, and I'm honored to be sitting with you today. Anita is the most successful Brazilian artist to ever come out of the country. Billboard magazine has called her more influential than Beyonce, Rihanna and Lady Gaga.
What the fuck? no, no big fucking deal, Anita.
In Brazil, maybe.
I don't know, international, I don't know. You also are nominated for a Grammy this year for best new artist. Congratulations.
Thank you.
Your career is incredible and watching you grow has just been so fucking cool. But I know you from when we met at the baby to Baby Gala.
Yeah.
I need to hear what your favorite moment is from that event, because I know we met briefly, but we were sitting next to each other. I was dying. You are so funny, you're so charismatic, you have such a personality.
What do you remember from that event?
I think our table was so fun, we had very fun people with us. We had fun just talking about things that people would never talk in a fancy table of auction dinner. I don't think.
Yes, Anita and I, we meet, and two seconds later, Anita's like, So how does your vagina smell? I was like, Hey girl, what's up? We're like, let's talk about our buttholes and our vaginas. As a corporate Spotify person is sitting directly to our left.
My favorite was also when Not that everyone knows the baby to baby gala, but there's angels that work at the event.
Oh my god.
So Anita is chilling, and now it's towards the end of the night. People have left, but people are saying, So Anita's like, You know, girl, I got an early morning, I'm going to dip out and I'm like, totally get it. I'll be leaving soon.
So everyone in the crowd is sitting and they're like, Hey, can all the angels stand up? To give people context? It's about 11 women in a crowd of 300 and they go, everyone, all the angels stand up. Anita just starts standing up, she's like, Bye, everyone.
I got to go and it's a dead silent room, and she was like, Wait, and I'm like, Anita, it's only the angels.
It's worse than that, it's worse than that.
Tell us, tell us.
In my mind, I thought she was calling all the women angels, stand up, all the women, and I thought all the women was going to stand up.
That's why I stood up.
And you're like, this is the perfect moment for me to sneak out the back door. Only 11 people of 300. And Anita literally sits back down. She's like, Mother, fuck.
That was terrible.
It was a great moment.
Let's kind of go back through your life a little bit to get to know you better. What was life like, where you grew up outside of Rio de Janeiro? What was it like?
So people don't think when they see me, or they see my songs and whatever, they don't imagine that. I come from the communities it could be called the ghetto. A little bit it's like the favelas. When you go to Brazil, there's communities, places that the houses are really close to each other. It's a really humble place, simple?
I come from a place like that, I was born and raised in a place like that. My mom used to do the best she could to fake the danger and the bad sides of it for me and my brother. So we all see everything with this beauty and playing in the streets, things like that, very like in the hood.
But she always told us that a way for us to leave there. It's not that we don't like there, but we all want to leave because we want a better life. So she always said that the only way to get out would be studying, and we always did the best we could, studying and doing all we could. I always loved music, so I started doing music, but also studying everything. I was my own manager for 10 years.
Me and my brother, we were partners, so it was a whole job, not only from arts, but also business.
When and at what age did you realize your love for performing?
Since I was a little kid, I was already singing. When I was three years old, four or five, I was already singing. And my family used to ask me these questions like, what are you going to be when you grow up? whatever? And I always used to be like, I'm going to be famous, I'm going to be an artist.
I'm going to have a pool in my house, blah, blah, blah, blah.
That was literally me, so you kind of always knew.
Always I would pass by some places that I knew it was like TV places like studios or whatever. And I used to open the window or go to the bus window and say, you guys are going to see me, I'm going to work here. Blah, blah, blah. Nine years old.
I was always this personality, kind of crazy.
I love that so much though, because I think sometimes you have to have that energy in order to get to where you need to get. But I was sure.
I was sure it was not that I said, Oh, I want to be. I was sure I would tell my family where I was going to live, how my house would be. The TV shows I was going to be, the people I was going to meet, I would be like that.
When I was a kid, I could literally see and dream about this. And my family was like, okay, because it was a very humble life. So they would never perspect that in my life.
So they would be like, Okay? And I was like, you guys don't understand, I'm not saying I want to, I'm going to be there, there's no option.
It's happening. Do you guys want to come along for the ride or not? Who were some artists that you admired growing up?
Mariah Carey was my first one, she was my first diva, and I had the opportunity to tell her that. And it was crazy. And to be on the phone with her for hours.
That was crazy for me, she was the number one.
Forever.
And then Rihanna, and now I'm sponsored by Fenty, I did their Fenty show, I do photo shoots for Fenty. It's crazy.
Even when you're saying that, does it still feel surreal how much success you've had?
I think we should always remember because sometimes, and I think the industry does this to us. They push us to think that we need always more, more, and more, and more.
And I think nowadays with the internet, it's kind of impossible for you to reach everything, everyone every time. You got to be happy also.
You got to take time for yourself also. So I think that this speech that I used to have for my life for many years, you can be more, you can do more.
Never stop, never give up. I was like that, and when I was like that, I couldn't see those things that happened in my life.
I would be like, Okay, yeah, I met Mariah. Okay, yeah, I loved it.
But I couldn't like, look and be like, Wow, nowadays, for me, it's like.
Yeah, we can definitely give up, we can definitely go rest, take a nap, go to sleep. We don't need all the money in the world.
You know, a person, the money doesn't mean happiness and the many as many number ones you get in your life.
That's not going to make you happier, or not? So for me, it's like every single thing that happened that happened in my life, I learned how to stop.
And be like.
Look at what I did, this is so, and then live that moment again. I got to this reflection when.
Because last year I got super sick, right, super sick, I couldn't do anything.
I couldn't go upstairs at my house, I couldn't do anything literally for three months.
I was like, and I thought, literally that I was going to die, it was a whole thing.
And then I was in the hospital for so long, and then I was like, you know what, I was just working.
Working, working to reach everything and thinking, I still didn't have enough and now I'm here.
And what did I get from life, like, did I enjoy it? did I have fun, did I do nothing?
Did I? And the thing that I wanted the most was like to travel, to have more free time.
And but today is too much for you to be successful.
You got to be on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Spotify.
It's so many things that you got to do. We're just one human being.
Too much?
How can we do all of that? It's a lot, so I'm not up to waste my life.
Yeah, searching for for things anymore because I'm almost 30 now, I'm 29..
And I do think it was important and amazing for me to do that for so many years. But now I just want to rest.
If I get more success amazing, if no, amazing, it's okay.
Your birth name is actually Larissa. Yeah, do you mind sharing?
Why and when you started going by Anita?
So.
My name.
Larissa is very common in Brazil, Anita is a name that there was.
Just one character from a series called Anita.
And I wanted to be this girl because she used to say that she was like.
An 18 year old character in the series, she used to say that she didn't like to be just one girl.
She liked to wake up and decide which girl she wanted to be. Today. I want to be crazy.
Tomorrow, I want to be sexy and then I want to be pretty, and then I want to be princess, and I was like.
That's so cool because I don't want, I don't like to define myself and be like, okay.
I'm this, yeah, I'm so many things I like to discover every day.
A new me? Yeah. And I think people have the necessity of defining.
You'll be like, Oh, she is that, and I like to be all.
What is the difference between Larissa and Anita?
Oh my God, it's huge, it's huge. I started my career 12 years ago.
Here in America, I am a best new artist, I'm joking, but I am nominated as best new artist.
For the Grammys, because it's a new career started from the zero. You know, I left everything.
And I came to start here again, but 12 years ago, when I started there, I created.
This character because me Larissa, I'm very shy, to be honest.
I'm very insecure, I'm very like, I don't like going out, I don't like socializing, I don't like doing anything.
You know?
I'm so the opposite of who I am when I'm in this character and when I created this character, Anita.
I wanted a person, a persona that would be completely.
Against hypocrisy, You know, people that are hypocrites, one thing.
And do the other, you know? And that's what I wanted to do.
How many languages can you sing in?
Sing I can sing in five languages, it's because I sing in Portuguese, Spanish.
English, Italian and French, but French just a little bit.
I speak just a little bit and Italian a little bit. How the fuck?
Did you learn all these languages?
So I'm gonna give a very good example right now, perfect of Larissa and Anita.
Right, so when I go to Inderville as Anita, you gotta deliver entertainment, right?
Yeah, so people ask me, how did you learn so many languages? I say, with boyfriends?
Whenever I wanted to have know a new language, I would date a different guy.
And like different accents, but in reality, I had, which is kind of boring.
The reality Larissa I hired different teachers from different places.
Of the world, and I would. I used to leave them in my dressroom.
For whatever commitments I had, so I used to, like, get two hours.
Of glam. Every day I would be studying during those two hours, the teacher would be telling me.
And I would be like studying for these two hours.
I fucking love your honesty of like, let me be so clear, Anita.
Is like, Bitch, if I wanted to learn Italian, I'm going to date an Italian man.
I'm gonna fuck.
An Italian guy I feel like.
Actually, I was just hiring people and they were just teaching me. Do you ever worry that, like?
Now being so honest about like the two characters that people will be like.
Wait, why? What the fuck like this isn't the real you?
No.
Because I think it's so important for me to have this clear and to understand.
That I use my character to break rules, to break boundaries and like things that limit us women.
To do all women, women, women that wants to be free.
In sex, women to want women, women that wants to be free.
In work, whatever I like this character, it brings, it brings.
To us, self-esteem, confidence and something to look at. Even I do.
When I'm myself Larissa nowadays, I look at.
Me as a character and I be like, Okay, I think I can get that from Anita.
And be a little bit more confident. So much easier for people to watch a movie.
And see that character and be like, okay, and understand the actor.
Is another thing. Yeah, but they don't understand that. Musicians.
Singers, they do the same thing, we do the same thing, there's no way we're bringing.
The on self, the person that we are at home, the person that we are in family.
And bring this person on stage, it's not entertainable, it's not, it's not.
Different enough for people to look and be like, Oh, this is special.
Who is your favorite person that you've collaborated with on a song?
Snoop Dogg.
That is.
For sure, because I think him and Cardi B, because.
They are so funny and Snoop Dogg is very like.
Simple, humble, and he's like everything for him.
Is a vibe? It's all about if he likes you, if he likes.
What's your your energy if he see he has something?
Kind of, I don't know. He sees someone and he feels the energy and then he decides.
If he likes or not, I feel, I think so, that's what I think.
From him, because I just feel like I can hug him and be there like, safe.
Forever. I think he's one of the coolest guys, and Cardi B, she's just funny.
But good energy like, best energy like.
High level, I love that.
I was reading the list. I'm like Pharrell, Missy Elliott, Snoop Dogg.
Rita Ora, Cardi B, Saweetie, Becky G. I'm like.
Becky's one of my best friends. Missy Elliott was great energy, too.
It was so good, so good. Okay, Anita, you're also known for your dancing.
Okay, yeah. The Anita challenge went viral on TikTok, which I remember just watching these videos.
And being like one, how is this not getting censored on TikTok? I can't even like, fucking curse in my TikTok.
Meanwhile, people are like doing the challenge and like, it's incredible watching it.
Can you explain how twerking in Brazil is different than twerking in America?
Because it's not even only twerking, it's partying in general, I think.
Here in America, people in the parties they are more concerned about.
Who they're with, where they're going, what they're doing, what they're wearing.
Situation in Brazil, there's no table situation, you go to the party.
There's no table, everyone is just one place, mass together.
Oh, just find out, you know, and.
We love dancing, we love dancing, sometimes we don't even understand whether you're singing.
We just want to dance, sometimes it's just the same lyrics over and over.
They just sing a different melody, just same words.
Always, and we love it, we just want to dance, we just want to listen.
And dance.
What is it like being known for? Like the way that you dance, though?
Are you, like, so proud of yourself?
It's crazy because in Brazil, it started this fever of like, Oh.
We're gonna do Anita moves, Anita moves, okay?
Now we need you to twerk.
Okay, okay.
So.
This is gonna be iconic, I think people will fucking love it. Is this the wrong surface? Oh my God.
Okay, okay, so do you want music? we have music.
No, it doesn't need to. Okay, so you just go like, you're gonna do a push up.
Right, okay, and then?
You just do a circle.
That, basically, you're doing this with your knees, okay?
You focus here and then.
Wait, how that might take a lot of upper body, you're doing this, but in this.
Oh my god.
I don't.
This other one is harder, though, when you do like.
When you do a circle, but you stop in the middle, so you do a wait, this one is harder.
It's when you do this.
I feel so creepy, I literally.
Holy shit.
Dude, that was so good. I am, like, inspired now to go home and, like, secretly practice it.
But, like, not letting anyone know I'm practicing it.
But like, I will be worked on it, next time I see you, maybe I'll have a little move to bust out. And do you incorporate these into your set?
No, no.
It's just a dance, not at all.
When the guy asks me to dance, I go like, dance first.
He's never going to fucking dance, so I'm like, what the fucking question is that?
Right, you're like, I'm not, I'm not performing like we're on a date.
I get so like.
It's so annoying. I'm like, dance first you.
You dance, I dance.
Are you currently single or in a relationship?
I'm single, I'm single, completely single and not looking for anything, I love it.
And so happy with myself. And I don't have sex in months, so many months, I don't even remember the last time I had sex, to be honest with you.
Are you just masturbating?
No.
Like, I'm so, listen, I didn't find anyone special enough that I would think, like, Okay, this one deserves to come here.
Right?
I didn't find it yet. You're spending time alone. But I was crazy, I was crazy before, I used to like.
Fuck, even like one person that would cross me on the street, I would be like you.
Come here, stop. I would be like that.
How did you get that confidence to, just like, go up to people?
Because I was living Anita 24 7 of the time.
Do you have a type of guy?
No girl breathing and alive.
I don't know, there's something inside that comes, and there's something.
For some reason, I can feel it, and then I'm like, So there's no type I can, literally.
Show you three different ex-boyfriends and you'll be like, What's the sense?
Between these people.
I love that. What do you think it's like something that you're most attracted to?
In a person.
I think we're there when they're funny, I love when they're funny.
You make me laugh like, I love it.
And.
That's so good when they are confident, a little aggressive.
But in a good way.
Uh-huh.
I like when they are aggressive in a good way, not like abusive.
Relations.
Have you found yourself in, um, any like abusive relationships?
Oh yeah, terrible, but I need it just once and then never again, like.
In two months after this one guy I had like for a.
A year and something, Wow, uh, I can look if I'm starting with someone.
In one month, I can feel it's abusive and I'm like.
Can you try to give like? If people are listening, they're like, fuck like.
I think I may be in one like, Do you have any like signs or things to look for?
Yeah, because in the beginning they let you feel very uncomfortable, you know?
And then they start to make you feel insecure about yourself without saying they don't say.
You are less or not, you know, yeah.
They just make they point, it's like they point things.
In other people, that they are actually talking about you, but they pretend they are not.
And then, Oh, honey, I'm almost a psychologist, I look.
And I'm like, Okay, and then I start bringing shit over for themselves to think.
So you mean, like, they'll point something out in someone in a room.
Yeah.
That, like, relates to you or is like, what you don't have, or.
Or or just say, like, you see, that's so bad, oh my god.
Kind of like to guide you how to not be.
Are you usually the one breaking up with people or they?
I am, I need that to change, though. I think that's why I'm waiting so much.
I want things to be different.
Got it? What is like a deal breaker for you in a relationship?
When I feel suffocated, I don't like that, or.
When?
I think.
When I feel suffocated is the number one thing, like when the guy doesn't let you breathe.
And like, jealousy, for no reason, you know, like.
Too much?
Come on, or needy, like, I need you, I want to talk to you.
Like 24 7.
Come on, give me a break, give me a time to breathe.
Right, there's nothing more like unattractive, which I get it. We're all insecure.
But being in a relationship with someone that's so insecure about you in the relationship.
It's like, such a turn off, you're like, Can you just like, Yeah.
Get into therapy, muster the courage.
When the guy tries, he's selfish, he tries to say he's doing things for you, but he's actually doing.
For him, he doesn't want to be alone, he is needy, he doesn't want to stand with himself.
Alone. But he's, he says that, Oh, no, I'm doing this for you.
Come on, you're not, I want to be fucking alone.
Yeah.
For a little time.
Can you give advice to women listening that are like, Okay, wait, Anita?
You have not been with someone you're not hooking up with people like.
How are you so comfortable being alone? So?
Everything started, and I I hope people don't need that to change lives when I got sick.
That was like, when I was in bed, thinking I was going to die, I started to look over all the things.
In my life, and I started to see all the things that I didn't want to repeat again.
It's not that I don't want to have sex with people anymore. Please God, I'm down, I'm open.
I'm free tonight, I'm just saying that I'm rethinking the reason why.
I used to do things and how I was doing things, and I want to do differently. I don't want to have sex with a guy.
Because I want him to fall in love with me, or because?
I don't want to lose him, I want to have sex because I feel like doing it, because I feel like this guy deserves.
My attention this Queen going to, you know, I don't know.
And before I didn't used to like staying by myself, I used to just like need.
Friends every time in my house, friends every time I needed people, and now.
I don't need nobody, I can be alone like this for days.
You know, cook my own food and be like, life is beautiful, I'm just here.
Chilling and I. I feel like we need to ask ourselves, why are we scared of the silence?
What is inside of us that we don't want to listen to? You know, what we don't like about ourselves, that we don't want to face it?
I'm not saying I regret the thousands of people I fucked.
I'm just saying right now.
I don't feel like maybe next month, I feel like fucking thousands of people again just now.
I just feel like.
Not right now.
It wasn't worth it.
I remember I went through almost this is, I've never said this, I almost went an entire year.
In my 20s, where I did not have sex, and I was like, totally happy.
Oh, I'm so happy, like.
It was like, just like a reclaiming moment for myself of like, I need to just figure my own shit out.
And I don't need any penis getting in the vicinity of me while I try to, I kind of want.
But it needs to be a great penis, it needs to be a penis plus.
A brain?
Plus.
A tongue, plus so many things, you know, it needs to be.
Like a mix, because it's a lot of work to have sex for me.
It's a lot of work I like to put a show on.
You do, can you give us some tips, Anita like, if the girls are like?
What do you mean put a show on, like, give us some tips, like?
What's your go to?
I like to enjoy myself, I like to feel like I'm like.
Dancing and performing.
Is it a deal breaker for you if a guy is not good at, like, eating you out?
I teach.
I love you. I would teach, I would say, come on, let me say something.
Do this, do that.
And.
I don't like when they go like this, like they put the tongue very hard.
And they go, like.
Hard.
And it's like.
You go like, right?
Oh my.
God, I don't like that.
Right, it's just like.
A little like slithering and you're like.
It's so bad.
These days.
Oh, by the way, I didn't have sex with guys this whole time with girls.
I did have, so I was teaching this friend of mine how to how to eat a pussy.
These days. And she was like, Oh, it's that easy.
And I was like, Yeah, I came in three minutes, she came in two.
Wait.
You were practicing on each other.
Yeah.
And you're just friends.
Yeah, there was no like.
Sexual connection.
Oh, no, I was just teaching her.
So you just like, took off your pants, like, here's my vagina, let me teach you.
Uh huh, fuck.
Okay, like, we need some tips without taking off your pants.
And.
Us doing it, do you?
Do you have any like like one specific thing that you can adjust for the men or women listening?
That maybe just like, help, oh my God, achieve more orgasm.
I will say, first of all, for girls, for whatever guys.
Girls to eat girls. Personally, I think it's kind of different.
For each girl, I don't know, the things I like can be different from the things.
Yep, other girls like me personally when I'm doing that with a girl.
I go nice and slow, I do circles, and then I just do up and down.
And I do side by side, but like, slow and wet and not like you're.
Eating a pasta.
It's just like you are an ice cream that is cold.
And you cannot freeze your tongue if you're gonna.
You're gonna freeze your tongue, you're gonna feel like, ah, ah.
It's just like.
Ice cold.
Yeah, I just go nice and slow and then I put a finger on it.
And I don't put the finger on it.
You know, I just put it like, nice and slow, small movement.
And like, just smooth, you know, and then.
Like, I don't go in the crazy side by side, or like, I just.
Go nice and slow, and it's smooth, keep going with the flow, you know?
And the girl is kind of gonna guide you and then you can just put the finger in the beginning.
Of the entry of the vagina, you don't need to go all the way down there.
And it's not because the woman squirt that she came there was this time, this guy.
He made me squirt like 20 times and I was not coming. I was like, this doesn't mean.
Something is happening, it's.
Men that are obsessed with getting a woman to squirt, let me look at me in the eyes to this camera.
Stop the next day.
It hurts, oh, it hurts so bad.
Come on.
I think sometimes men forget like, would you want us like Jack hammering your dick?
Yeah, no, you like when it's like, very wet and like.
You don't need it to be like, let's fucking go. Yeah, imagine we did that. Also, dry, you would have rug burn.
Same for us. Okay, yeah, same for us.
There is also like, with guys, what I do.
Try to give an example. I always use oil when I can, when the guy is not full of like.
Some guys are like, Oh, you're using, I love, I love using.
Lubricant love it, and some guys think it's because they're not doing a good job. Shut the fuck up.
It's just more pleasing. Yes, you use lubricant, I put the lubricant.
I'm going to teach you.
Okay, okay, here we go.
I put the lubricant and then I go, first of all, I go.
Like this, and then there's one movement and then you're going to do something, there's something you can do that.
They are not going to understand what you're doing. You could tell him to close.
His eyes. You're going to do this, you're going to hold here in the bottom, and you're going to do this.
With the hands like this, you go down and circle.
Down circle, down circle, and then you go up.
Up and you do this, but up and down up.
And down, and you do this, don't, don't, don't.
He's going to be like, What is happening? But you should put lubricant on it, but you go like this.
Don't do this, it's like, go up and down, don't.
Don't let it go, just open up and down and you do this.
Open and close, open and close, because then you're going to switch.
The pressure on it and you're going to be like, What is she doing? But you got to put lubricant on it.
Right, so you're kind of like massaging down past their tip and then around their shaft.
While you're holding the base.
Yeah, like this, oh.
That's magical.
And then they get super confused because it feels like a blowjob, but it's not, and then you.
For the blowjob, I like using things that you put in it to fix it plastic.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, the Invisalign.
Kind of, yeah, there's a bunch of brands, yeah, if you use the one down.
Just the one down.
Life changing, really, because it feels like you don't have teeth.
I need a.
It feels like you don't have teeth. Yeah, you can try.
I just added that to my Amazon cart while you were.
You can ask them, Wow, they're going to feel like you don't have teeth.
And just on the bottom.
Because it's going to touch, yeah, because it's on the up, too, it's going to look weird, yeah.
Yeah, but if you use only on the bottom, they're going to feel like you don't have teeth because you can touch.
As much as you want with this teeth here, because it's not like aggressive, it's like.
Smooth as a plastic.
This is an educational podcast today.
Okay.
We are educating.
But this is bad. They don't like it, like the brand of the dentists they will.
Try to kill me and they're going to say, I'm built bullshit because I try to say that in Brazil.
Wow, they all they wanted to kill me, wait.
I feel like they would love it. The sales are going to rock it.
They wanted to kill me. No, no, no, that's not the purpose.
This is health for people to take care of this, right?
While you're sucking dick, you're also aligning your teeth, you're multitasking.
But people don't want to know about that. They don't do blowjobs. They just were born from pure sand spirit, yeah.
That came, and so well, everyone is virgin.
Today I am, I am claiming that this is a great technique and you can be.
Fixing your teeth while sucking Dick? Nothing better.
I wouldn't say that I'm not a dentist, I'm just saying, if you want to try, you try.
If no, it's okay.
Totally. If you already have one, pop it in, see how it works.
Dentists hate me because I said that in Brazil, they hate me.
Dentists.
They do because I said, it's good when you use it, but.
They hate it, they don't like that. I said that.
They're the virgin dentist they need to, they need to fucking relax.
Have you ever been cheated on?
Once when I was.
Nineteen eighteen.
Something like that, so.
Oh, my god, online a fan, a fan told me no.
And oh, twice I was.
Twice.
Once was a fan told me second one, I pretended it was a fan because I actually dreamed about it I dream about.
About a lot of things that actually happened. So there was this one time I went to sleep this boy.
I lend my car to him, he didn't have a car. I lend my car to him. I was already a singer I was.
I was performing somewhere else, he went to the place and he when I went to sleep, I literally went to.
Like, in my dream, I went to the club he was. I saw him kissing the girl he was wearing, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Ta da da da da. The girl was wearing ta da da da da, and it was so clear to me. And I know I have these type of dreams.
So I didn't tell him I dreamed. I said, Hi, a fan took a picture and sent me, you were.
With this girl, you were wearing blah, blah, blah, she was wearing blah, blah, blah.
And then he was desperate saying, Yeah.
I'm sorry.
After months, I told him I dreamed it.
Have you ever got caught cheating?
Um no, I'm so smart.
I am so smart.
How do you feel about sex on the first date?
I don't care, yeah, if I feel like I do you, just be yourself.
You just be yourself, and if he likes you amazing, if he doesn't, it's because he's an asshole.
He's not that he's an asshole, he doesn't match you and you just want him because of.
You think you need him for something, but you don't.
I love that advice, it's like, if you're good with yourself, who gives a fuck if they?
You don't care, it doesn't matter. There was this one time, this one guy I went on a date.
After it did not, it ended up not happening anymore. I was like, he doesn't.
Want me blah, blah, blah. And then after two weeks.
When I was like, better with my therapy on day, on point.
And I was like, What the fuck I was doing with that guy? He has, he makes no sense.
He kisses.
Terribly.
His kiss, I was like, Where the fuck did this guy learn to kiss? it was like?
Blah, blah.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Blah.
Blah.
Blah, I was like the sex would be even worse. Why?
I was caring so much. It was. It's just our fear.
Of being rejected has nothing to do with the guy, we don't even care about the fucking guy.
So.
Has nothing to do with the fucking person, the person.
Sometimes is shitty, yeah, and we are concerned.
Just because we don't want to feel rejected.
I also think a good bit of advice is pretend.
In your head, imagine if they were obsessed with you and they wouldn't stop hitting you up.
Then now assess would you actually like them like?
If you're coming from a place of like, they don't like me, I want them to like, that's just the chase.
And we get addicted.
And then he texted me and I was like, No, thank you.
Like, you kiss like a frog.
I was like, No, today I have my mind so on point.
No, thanks.
Some people.
You just go with them because your mind is not on point, right?
And then you wake up one day and it's like, alleluia, what the fuck, what I was doing?
With that person.
It's so crazy, too, when you look back and you're like, I can't believe I was fucking obsessed.
With that guy, he fucking sucked. Yeah. Sometimes you just need to, like, step away from it.
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