Do I Focus on Him or My Career? [VIDEO]

That's pretty good, right, daddy gang. welcome back to another episode of. call her daddy. it is Officially the most important day of the year. No, it is not my birthday.

It is not the day that I came out of Lori's vagina. It is the day for the father's, all of the fathers around the world. I would just like to say from one father to another Happy, motherfucking Father's Day. Okay, the thing is, when I think about Father's Day and Obviously being a father to millions around the world, It's such an incredible gift that was bestowed upon me from you guys Anointing me as your father. and the thing is is like how many motherfucking, deadbeat dads are out there, you know, And I take with great pride that I feel like I have really taken on this Incredible journey to be a father to not one, to not many, but to billions I love.

imagine of color. I had billions followers, No millions of people, and I feel like, when I reflect back on how I became this resilient, supportive, Incredible father that I am to all of you today, I really do have to give credit to the OG, and the OG would be my own father. Mr Brian Cooper. dad, if you are watching this, I'm assuming you are watching this in the living room, Relaxing, maybe having your cup of coffee, Watching this, smiling proudly, Honestly enjoying the fuck out of retirement. God bless you.

I love you, and I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you so much for never giving up on me, Because in my demon years of being just an absolute raging psycho, Specifically from freshman year to senior year of high school, I would say it really got bad that sophomore year when I met that one boy. I understand, I put you guys through hell, but I just want you to know. Thank you, Because you have taught me what it means to be a good dad and to be a good father and the daddy gang. Thanks to you.

Okay, from the daddy gang and me to you. Happy Father's Day, dad. I love you.

It's funny because Growing up my mom was always the one kind of just like handling the boy problems. And when I was dating a boy my dad would be like you, go like you, go, deal with it, And my mom would like. I could like hear them talking outside of my door, like you, go, deal with her. No, you go talk. Okay.

I'll talk to her. Okay, okay, And I'm like just both of you come in and my mom would always be the one that was dealing with me as I was sneaking out and ruining everyone's lives. and What I will say is I will never forget I started dating the bad boy in at the public school when I was going to this private school, and my parents really thought like, of course, if we lock her up enough at a private school, She's gonna have to, like, hopefully find a guy that, like, has a trust fund, drives a Porsche and like, comes from a good family. I'm like, no, no. No, I'm gonna date the bad boy that does drugs and like really can, just like, ruin my life Classic.

and so I remember my mom had basically given up. She was like, I don't know much, how much more I can do for her, Brian, Like, I have really put everything I know Into this child, and she still is buying ladders off of eBay to climb out her window and to go see this fucking boy. That's gonna ruin her life, and I will never forget. I'm sitting at my desk, in my room. I'm like my Dell Desktop computer.

I'm playing, I'm on what the fuck was that thing called back in the day. Oh my god. It was um, limewire. I'm like illegally downloading, like the new Hannah Montana song and also listening to Eminem, and like raging with my tits out Not actually, but just like raging and like being emo. and my dad knocks on my door and he comes in and he sits down On my bed, and he's like hey Alex.

Um, I Just, I just wanted to talk to you. and now It was just like awkward in general having those type of conversations with my father, because my mother and I were having them all the Time when my mom would be driving me to soccer practice. She would be like talking to me and, you know, pouring all the good juices and lecturing it to me, Just like, please do this, do this to this. my father and I like never really had that relationship. He always left it much to my mom.

So the fact that my dad was coming in like sitting down and I will never forget dad shout out. It was one of the most awkward moments in my brain. You probably don't even remember it. I literally hear my dad say so.

You know, I, I, I know that you.

Want a.

Yeah, um, a boyfriend, and I'm like dad, like my ears are burning at this point. I'm like no dad, stop, I'm like a sophomore in high school at this point and he's like, no, no, no, And I'm like, are you about to have the sex talk with me? Like what that he's like? No. Oh my god.

No, no. No, I'm not having the sex talk with you. I just wanted to say, you know, I know you want a boyfriend and I know you really like this boy. But your mother and I and he goes on this diatribe of like basically, why not to date this kid? and what's good for me?

as I think about like one day becoming a parent? and it's like how do we know how to parent? well, because as Much as my parents tried so fucking hard to make me not see this boy, It honestly only made me want to see him more like. it just was like you're dangling this motherfucking carrot in front of my face And you're saying don't eat it. Don't eat it.

So I'm gonna fucking eat it. and so my poor parents, my dad, just sat there and I of course know that, like Laurie, was like listening in on the door, as my dad was like. We just want you to be safe and like we just feel like maybe he's not the right fit, and like you know with soccer and like you're trying to get a Scholarship, and like you can't get in trouble, like the other kids, like everyone and I don't know if you guys had this, but like I felt, like every fucking friend of mine, Every single person in high school was getting underage tickets and you've technically like got arrested and then you get an underage ticket and my parents were like you cannot have that, because I Now, looking back, they told me it goes on your record. like, does a fucking underage drinking thing go on your record? Obviously, if you have.

like a DUI, I am assuming, but like an underage drinking ticket. does that? or were they just trying to scare Me? dad, you know what? not happy father's day to you.

You were lying, but I honestly I do really like. I did really respect them, because they were genuinely just trying to be like Alex. don't fuck up your life for a boy. and Naturally, when someone says that to you, you're like, I will never fuck up my life for a boy. And then, naturally, I started to fuck up my life for a boy, but he was worth it.

He was love my life. No, he wasn't just felt like it at the time. so Shout out to Brian, because I just remember dad, like you, trying to have that like awful, awful, awful Boyfriend conversation with me, and it was one of, in my brain, the most awkward, awkward, awkward Conversations that I've ever had with you in my entire life, and thank God that dates back so fucking long. Okay, big Bri, I love ya, and you are. you are the best dad in the world and I Really appreciate you sticking through this call her daddy era with me.

I know when the show first started, you were not able to listen to the episodes. You kind of got the cliff notes from mom. Understandably, you didn't need to listen to the gluck gluck 9,000 episode. But what I do know is now you tune into my episodes every week and I love your support and I love you. So happy father's day, dad.

Okay, so let's talk about what else is going on. Oh my god wait, I completely forgot to acknowledge I have officially Deemed this room the new Sunday sessions room. If you guys are not watching this, I am in what kind of looks like a.

Green, moody Vibey Library, and the thing is is I haven't read one of these books behind me, but it's motivation, you know, Motivation to get that vocabulary up where it needs to be and really hit a new stage of intelligence. So, God bless. I used to record my Sunday sessions in this room in my house. That was like, I don't know, It was makeshift and I was like, why am I recording here? And it was just like I wanted to record here.

So I'm very excited. I feel like this is like a new era for Sunday sessions. It's giving, like Father is Fathering, and it's kind of like this is kind of like grandfather vibes, you know, when you look at me with all these books around me. It's giving wisdom. It's giving maturity.

It's giving dark academia. It's giving. it's literally not getting our turkey academia, But it's just giving. you know, and I felt like more at home here. So I'm happy that we're all feeling cozy today today.

Let me actually see if I have any other life updates aside from, oh you guys, okay, so my best friend Jackie is getting married soon and.

it's fun because I don't know if you guys have those group chats with your friends that like are Very consistent and we all live kind of in different places, but we have this one group chat. It's me, Kristen, Lauren and Jackie in this group chat. so all of us have been getting ready for her wedding and it has been so fun because We're on the group chat trying to figure out like what dresses are we gonna wear? And I will say I'm so happy, like I loved my wedding. But it's so fun to be on the other end of it now where Jackie, Kristen and Lauren, we're all texting in our group chat, Like what are you guys winning wearing?

and they were sending pictures about, like what they were gonna wear to my wedding. and now that I'm no longer the bride. I'm really enjoying, like Jackie, I love you, but I am enjoying not having all the pressure and like the oh my god, Like I'm not gonna. just I'm not gonna. it's not gonna be my event.

And so I'm excited to, just like be a supportive friend and be there for my best friend and be there with my friends, And just like have fun and party. And so I have a lot coming up. I would say this summer. I don't know when this is coming out, but I am going to Nantucket this summer, which I'm really excited about. Matt and I went to Nantucket for the first time last summer and I remember we were trying to decide like, what do we want to do for our summer vacation?

because, Basically, like I, Everyone at our company, as I'm sure a lot of companies obviously do like we get off for 4th of July and we're like, okay, What did we want to do? and so last year we decided that we were gonna go to Nantucket, and I remember so vividly how we decided on. this was growing up on the East Coast. I just feel like such cozy vibes with like an East Coast summer, but I think Spending a relaxing time in like the Hamptons, for example, the Hamptons, is like so fucking bougie. in terms of like.

I feel like everyone, kind of just like, wants to be seen there and like everyone like is, you're like putting on your best outfit and you're like Trying to like. it's just like very seamy and I'm not shitting on the Hamptons Like. I think the Hamptons are super fun for partying. specifically, in my opinion, Like, if you want to party, I would maybe go to the Hamptons. but if you want to actually have a relaxing time, I Wanted to try out Nantucket or Martha's Vineyard last summer.

And so I was like Matt. I love you, We don't need to go to Malibu. Let's not go to Santa Barbara, like, let's try an East Coast summer. and Matt grew up with his family going to this like camp in Maine, and He had great experiences there. So I was like, okay, let's do an East Coast summer.

And so last year, when we went to Nantucket, I will say it was one of the most relaxing, Incredible.

Vacations I ever had, because I was like We just sat and did nothing other than eat lobster rolls and just relaxed, and it was fabulous. so we're gonna do Nantucket again this summer and I'm going to the Olympics, you guys. and what's so crazy to think about with the Olympics is like. obviously, I grew up watching the Olympics and I Was an athlete, so I would like watch with my whole family like just so Excited to see the standout stars of that. like everyone with the Olympics, It's like you start to kind of just like, recognize like who are like the best of the best and and it's so fun to watch These people like then become celebrities and everyone in the world knows them.

and so I just remember it was so fun growing up watching the Olympics and to be able to go to the Olympics now and to Be participating with NBC like. it's a really, It's a really like surreal feeling and I feel so grateful for this opportunity. like NBCUniversal and I basically are Teaming up and I'm gonna be doing my own like watch party, basically On Peacock, if you guys didn't know this, here we go. So the Olympics. I'm gonna be going to Paris, I'm gonna have my own show and I'm gonna basically just watch the sports, kind of like red zone.

You guys know red zone when you're like watching football and it's all like the highlights. I'm gonna basically be doing that for all the sports and I'm just so excited like Paris in the summer and it's gonna be just such an incredible experience, and I actually just was recently interviewing these two in Incredible, incredible beach volleyball players. Shout out, Sarah and Kelly. I think that interview will come out soon on NBCU, but I am meeting these athletes and They're such incredible people and I'm just so excited to watch the u.s. Hopefully dominate, and Yeah, so I'm getting ready for all of what summer has to offer me you guys.

Okay, daddy gang. So I figured for Father's Day. There's absolutely no other gift that I can give you that would be better than a good old-fashioned Questions of the motherfucking week. I just feel like I know that you guys are going through it, as am I in different ways in my life, and we're all Going through it. We're all trying to survive.

So what can I do? I can answer some of your questions and we can just kind of talk about what the fuck is going on. okay, switching careers for a man. a Daddy gang member wrote in and said I just graduated from college and I'm currently deciding what I want to do for my career. I always thought I would go into medicine, But ever since I met my boyfriend, I realized that I might want a career that would give me more work-life balance.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and I have never believed in a relationship more than this one, But I can't help but feel like I am giving up a girl boss career to follow a guy. How should I approach this decision? okay, here's the thing I.

but like we've made progress, and so I think, understandably, like women are Excited and we want to be able to do whatever the fuck we want if we want to work, if we don't want to work, like we just want to have the option, and that was not something that people that came before us as women like had the Privilege of. and so I think that there, though, Unfortunately is and I've seen it online, like there's just a lot of pressure I feel like for some women who are like I kind of want to be like a stay-at-home mom, Like there is. not only is there nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay-at-home mom, That is a fucking full-time job in itself. And I feel like women, feel I.

Think some women one feel anxious that they may be judged if they don't do maybe what some of their friends are doing, like, Oh, I'm not girl bossing hard enough, babe. If you don't want a girl boss, and also I fucking hate it. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I hate the word girl boss, but like, if you don't want to have a really like, intense Career, that is like takes a lot of your time.

That's okay. My only advice when it comes to this, though, is I want you to always make a decision Based off of if you lost this person tomorrow, whether they ghosted, you disappeared or you literally, just like, lost them. I'm not saying like died. Oh my god. I mean you could pretend he died tomorrow.

and like, how would you feel? Well, not only how would you feel, but like how would you go about it? Like, would you be upset that you didn't follow medicine is, what I'm trying to say is I hope he's alive and he's fine. I want you to just make sure that You're not enjoying the just like immediacy of falling in love and you're not just like Leaning too hard into oh my gosh, I'm just really enjoying the perks of being a girlfriend and like loving, living with someone and living this life. That is amazing.

But then, all of a sudden, when that dies down, will you start to be like, hmm? I wish I did maybe follow my career. or are you actually just saying like you're Recognizing that the medical field is just too much for you and it just doesn't really fit the lifestyle that you want? like I Guess. I would just say and I don't know if this is realistic, because you're not married and you don't have children yet I would just encourage you to really try to make the decision in a way that has no.

Impact from this partner that you're currently dating. You've only been dating a year. a year is a long time. I don't want you to regret anything. And so maybe you do try to just pursue something in the medical field that you had wanted to do.

you can always stop. or if you're like Having like anxiety around this career, Then maybe it really does have nothing to do with the guy and merely it. maybe it is that like. this is not something that You're interested in. I think I.

my advice is just you need to differentiate. Is this because You're in love and you're enjoying this lifestyle with someone which, again, there's nothing wrong with that? But I wouldn't want you to give up on a career because of this, like temporary, Really exciting time. the first year of dating is so fun. Like, are you kidding me?

I remember when I met Matt and there were times where it was like, oh my god, He was going here for a movie and I was like fuck, like I have to Stay home and I have to do this interview. and like, of course, I fucking love my job, But when you're like being swept off your feet and you're like having that first year romance honeymoon stage, Are you kidding me? I would fucking love to like not be doing my job and like fucking mail it in and just like Fucking Mary rich. Okay, you'd be like, oh, I did it like I think there's. you just have to know within yourself if you are Passionate about this.

or was it a decision going into the medical field that you thought you had a passion and you're recognizing It kind of actually gives you anxiety, But I do just think it's a larger conversation for women of like. we need to stop comparing ourselves like I.

Personally, find a lot of my fulfillment and I feel like my purpose in life. a lot of it is My job like. I don't look at this sometimes like a job and I feel so fortunate that this is my life of like. I really love what I do and I recognize like. that's not Everyone.

I remember I was with my friends recently and I, one of my friends, was talking about how like she.

Works to live, not lives to work, and I was like, oh my god, like. I Like live to work. Like I love working. I don't even see my job as work. Like.

I feel so fortunate and We were all having a conversation about how like it is so incredible. It was four girls and two of us were like we love our job and it like gives us such purpose and it's part of Our identity. and then the other two women were like, oh my god, I don't like hate my job, but I so don't like if I could stop working tomorrow and like just be given a check to, like Live a stay-at-home mom life, or just like even live like an at-home life and not have to work, I would immediately not work, and I think that's so okay. both Dynamics are so fucking fine. like amazing.

if you're so passionate about your job, and if you're not passionate about it, that's also okay. I think recognizing which you relate more to can help you kind of make this decision. Are you giving up a career that you actually love and you have wanted your whole life? But it's kind of hindering your ability to spend time with this new boyfriend. I would say pursue your career.

I would say you've always loved this. You've wanted to go for it. Go for it And if he's the right guy, he'll always be there. and you guys can figure out times for date nights and you can figure out times that work, that you guys can spend time together. Matt and I both work so Many hours and we carve out time all the time so that it's like us time.

So I would just say Think about it and maybe don't completely just go cold turkey and like give it up, Like maybe you should pursue it for the next year, Just to make sure that you're not giving up on something that you really enjoy and that really fulfills you.

Okay, Okay, here we go. next question My boyfriend and I decided to get married and we are very excited about it. We've been together for nine years and feel ready to take this next step. We immediately told our families and everyone seemed happy for us, But the next day my boyfriend told me that he received three calls from his mom and sister Asking him if he was sure. I don't know how to take this.

They're his family. So I definitely do not want drama, but it made me feel bad. They are being very supportive and even helping with planning, but in the back of my mind I can't stop wondering if they don't like me. Should I address this or let this go? Okay, my first note, babe, is like nine fucking years.

You've been together for nine years and you're curious if they like you or not. I'm gonna go ahead and say Revisit the last nine years. Context clues. did they treat you like a little piece of shit or were they giving you that good love? Were they giving you that like good family treatment?

because what I will say is I'm assuming You know from those nine years your relationship and where you stand with these people, and if you don't, I would say that's probably a Problem, which means you're not close with them. And then I would say why aren't you close with them? Totally fine, If it's proximity, maybe you don't live near them, but it sounds like you guys do live near them. So I would say listen, I don't know the context, but I will say this if you have had a wonderful nine years with this man and You found this out from your partner. I have two notes, which I'm curious about.

actually, as I'm thinking about this number one, I Think that it's okay for.

Parents to ask and family members to ask if you're sure when you're making a really big life decision. obviously, you know, like getting married is a very serious thing and I think, Understandably, families are going to be extremely.

Just like protective of their family member and wanting to check in. like, are you sure? because, Listen, I'm not Judging, but I'm based on the facts that you dated for nine years. You've been together for almost a decade. Some people would be like, why did it take you guys so long to get engaged?

and so again, I know I'm not in the conversation of your relationship, but my worry, as I'm thinking this through, is Has he, throughout those nine years, not proposed? Because there have been things in the relationship That he has expressed to his family he is hesitant about and he's hesitant to start a future with you and get married because of these things? and Are they reaching out to him basically saying like, are you sure? Because they're basically checking in to see like, have these things gotten resolved? Because I don't think, after nine years, if he has been literally the happiest person in the fucking world, This motherfucker is a jolly green jumping gene being gene, gene being gene.

Gene being gene is jumping for joy. Maybe his name is Jean. you and Jean are getting married. picture this and every motherfucking Thanksgiving and Christmas and Easter and holiday and Hanukkah, and whatever the fuck religion you are. Maybe you're fucking Buddhist bitch.

Okay, whatever you're dangling with and dancing with. maybe he's been the happiest motherfucker alive. Okay, nine years of bliss. Okay, and maybe Then I would say, if his parents are asking if he's sure That doesn't make sense. That doesn't fucking make sense.

nine year. You know what I mean? There's something missing here. Why have you guys waited nine years to get married? Have you guys had a conversation?

I don't know. and again, I'm not being judgy, I actually I'm just curious. like, oh, nine years together, That's a pretty fucking long time. Like, have you guys talked about having a family together? Has he bitched you about you to his family?

Something is missing here. Something is missing. and then my only other inclination about this that is a little off is Why did he tell you? If this motherfucker intends to marry you, why did he tell you? Oh, he's just like Dumping his fucking trauma on you, being like my parents said this to me, and then he leaves you with like no conclusion.

I think you need to have a conversation about it, because, no matter what this is gonna be weighing on you And this is one of the biggest decisions of your life You're about to legally bind yourself to this motherfucker. And who knows, maybe Jean has been talk a little fucking dirty, dirty about you for the past nine years. And then finally, god forbid, he like, is like, oh, well, I guess I'll just fucking mail it in like. I haven't found anyone. Oh, my god.

I'm sorry, I'm like, I don't want to make you spiral, but I don't know. daddy gang like right in like. my worry for you is just like, after nine years, for his parents to Be like, are you sure? and his mother and his sister and everyone calling? What are we missing?

I would really be like finally, motherfucker. That's really fun. Finally, let's get the show on the road. Like. I would be more on that end rather than like, are you sure?

oh, do we need another decade to fucking figure it out, but I'm really sorry because That just sucks. This is supposed to be like an incredible time and happy time in your life, and I can imagine seeing them helping, trying to plan, like the wedding and stuff. you're like a Bitch. you just fucking talk. shit on me.

Like, go, fuck yourself. No, I don't want you to come fucking dress shopping with me. You fucking whore. Yeah, fuck his sister. No, I'm just kidding.

Um, Okay. Next question. This is about different preferences on how often to hang out with your boyfriend. Okay, how do I tell my boyfriend? I want to spend more time together?

for context, I felt like my ex-boyfriend's lowest priority and I would only see him once a week. So when I started seeing my current boyfriend, I made what I was looking for very clear I don't need to see him every day, But I want to hang out at least three to four times a week. at first things were going great, But now we're definitely seeing each other way less. I don't want to be clingy. But how do I ask to spend more time together?

Oh, That's fucking tough, Because I guess I would need a little bit more context of like. how old are you? Are you in college? Are you in high school? Are you out of college?

Because here's the thing I feel like in college. I Saw this person all the time, like any of the guys that I dated in college, like literally what else are you doing? I'm like leaving the dining hall where you at leaving English, where you at going to the party, where you at want to come over, like Every in-between fucking practice and everything. You're like, where are you? and so, although of course we would have nights where, like Maybe, he would go to like dinner with his family if they were in town.

You're never not going to a party without your boyfriend, unless they're like fucking sick. so, like college breeds, kind of this, like Codependency, we're like it's weird almost if you don't do everything together, because what the fuck else are you doing in college? you're like masturbating, going to class and Having drama to deal with. I would say, if you're out of college, though. I Understand this because I have actually had this conversation Recently with one of my friends who is starting to date this new person, and They kind of like recently made it official.

And so now I'm like, ooh, like. do you guys like? do you guys hang out on a Monday night and we were just kind of talking about like What is the right amount? and I feel like you have to just have an honest conversation. I Think three to four times could be great for you.

I think every day could be great for you, If that's what you want, or I personally think once a week is literally like Absolutely not acceptable. I would be like, what are you doing every single night? and the thing for me and everyone is different, but one of the things for me that I Would really love about a partner is like I think there's like multiple different aspects of being in a relationship When it comes out to hanging out, so I need my like movie nights, Ordering food, some wine, movie nights chilling, relaxing and like, just like spending quality time together. That's like one aspect of a relationship. for me, I think the other aspect of the relationship is like going out and being social together.

So going out to dinners with our friends, going on a double date, going to a dinner party, going to work events Like Matt and I. I would say every week Matt and I are going to and I know I'm married, But I'm actually talking about when Matt and I were dating, Matt and I would go to, at least like I would say, one dinner a week with friends, One dinner a week. that was work, even though I tried to blow Matt off every fucking time He asked me to go to work event. I'm like, oh my god, so weird like I.

Feel like a little sniffles coming on. and then there's family. and Family is like once you are dating someone. I'm assuming, you know, his mom, you know his dad, and so like family dinners. like Matt and I I would say almost every other Sunday are going to his Grandmothers or his mom's house and we have family dinners like this Sunday, as you're all watching this, I will be at Matt's brother's house.

they're throwing Father's Day and so we're all gonna be there and we're like having a big dinner. and That's what comes with being in a relationship. So I would say to you you could have a conversation with him, Because, as I'm saying, that I'm like, how does someone only hang out once a week if you're dating? that literally means that you're like barely in like, integrated into each other's lives, because What is he doing every single night? Is he hanging out with his friends without you?

I think when you start dating and you're getting more into adult relationships like you need to hang out with his friends. It's weird if he's always having boys nights. I understand in college that is like a whole fucking thing of like we're going out with the boys. still then I mean, Yeah, is the is the one girl that's annoying. that's like I'm going out with him and all the boys like let him have a fucking Boys night.

Those are probably the people that are like getting a little too anxious, like he's gonna cheat at boys night. Let him have his boys nights, but if his boys nights are every fucking week and you're never invited, bitch like during the pandemic, Matt would always play in this poker league and He would either go to a friend's house or he would host it. and I was like, he would always like. do you want to come hang out and I'm like Matt? What kind of crazy bitch do I look like?

No, I don't want to be the only fucking person with a vagina sitting there watching you guys fucking Jack each other off and like fight about fucking poker. I don't care about that. I'm gonna use this time to catch up on Grey's Anatomy, But I did like that. He invited me. I'm not gonna lie.

I was like, oh, like. I like that, you, I like that. You know that You appreciate me enough and you trust me enough that, like I, can come hang with all of your friends and you won't be like Embarrassed by me, but no, I would rather fucking go hang out with my girlfriends or go fucking lay on my couch or FaceTime one of my long-distance friends For five hours while you're fucking losing all your money. So, for you, my biggest concern is how are you not hanging out more often and for sure? I understand there are some people that, like they don't have work shit.

Okay, fuck, work shit. What about social shit? Like? I think I? I would say to you start to carve out in your brain what you would ideally like.

you said that you and your boyfriend hung out like three to Four times in the beginning, and you were so happy about it. My only concern is I feel like this sounds like more like a situation ship. if I'm being honest, I feel like situationships. you almost like. the sex is so good in the beginning and you're like kind of like it's fun.

You're hooking up and then it can start to wean off. That's natural. You don't owe each other anything to have your boyfriend like slowly start to wean off more. I'm worried for you. this kind of means like this could be more of like the end of the relationship vibe rather than like you need to have a Conversation.

So, before you have the conversation, I think my first problem for you would be why are you guys not hanging out more? and I get it. if, let's say he just got a new job and He is so, so, so busy and it is like babe. I am in my grind right now. Like I am literally working such insane hours and when I get home I literally just want to lay in my bed and just like go to fucking sleep and like I'm so exhausted, I'll see you on the weekend.

I can kind of understand that, like a little bit, but I still would say like I kind of like Okay, then like let me just come over and like let's lay together and like not to be a dick, like, okay. So do you not want to get like fucked? at least like that could be nice. like after a long days of work, like i'm down to, like come over as your girlfriend and like get mine and you get yours and then don't talk and go to fucking bed. like I don't know.

like I know, there were Nights where I was so fucking busy and I was doing two podcasts at one point. It was kind of weird during the pandemic I would record sometimes two podcasts in a day, which is just like not good for the mental health. You're like how much more can I fucking say? you will start to like hate yourself because you're like shut the fuck up, I'm talking too much. And matt would be like let me just come over This is when we didn't live together and he would like let me just come over and I'd be like matt, like I'm gonna be a really bad version of myself.

and he was like, let me guess you want to get in bed, eat snacks And watch your shows. and I was like, yes, and he was like perfect, I will come over and let's just lay together and i'll watch your shows with you. and I was like, oh my god. And what naturally happens, though, is he'll come over and he'll bring me extra food, and we would lay, we would have sex, and then, slowly, I would get so relaxed that then I would be like, how was your day? and even those like Hour to 30 minutes alone together before we would go to bed?

It was we were connecting and we were spending quality time together, and that's important in a relationship, because guess what? when you get fucking married and you have kids and all those things like Your alone time just dwindles, and so, right now being in the best stage being in the dating phase, like bitch This is supposed to be, when you're just like up each other's motherfucking assholes. Obviously, like I always say, independence and having alone time with your friends and having alone time is important. But I worry for you. Like, why is it dwindling?

You know, like, why are you not hanging out more? Why did it go down to? Less than three times a week, like i'm assuming what two and one? so i'm sorry, You're feeling this way. that really sucks, that you're Not feeling like he's prioritizing you, but I don't think he will know that unless you say it.

So I think it's you sitting him down and you expressing. Hey, I Love you. I think I don't know. Maybe you don't love him. I'm assuming you love him if he's your boyfriend, and I think you can just say hey And obviously cater this to like your dynamic, but you can say, hey, I love you so much and I was reflecting back on the beginning days of our relationship because, if i'm honest, like I kind of miss you and It's weird to say I miss you because you're my boyfriend, like why am I missing you?

and I realized, like We haven't been hanging out as much as recently and I wanted to just check in with you of like how you feel about that, because I think I mean you could go two ways. You could just go right ahead and say that you're not happy, that you're not hanging out as much, but I think you saying You miss him is like a sweet, loving way instead of being like. why don't we hang out as much? And I think once you approach it like I miss you and then ask him how he feels about it, You're kind of gonna probably get your answer from whatever he says. Imagine if his response is literally like Yeah, i've just been like super busy and like.

honestly, i'm not gonna lie. Like I don't have as much time anymore, blah, blah, Bye, Literally bye, and I think that's when you can be honest. being like I have to be honest with you. I don't know if that's gonna work for me in a relationship like. I Look at a relationship and I want to have connection and I want to be each other's primary partner and I want to Be together and I want to have fun and I want to have nights together.

I want to have nights socially and like. right now it's like i'm barely seeing you. So I do think god forbid that happens. you're. it's kind of on you to decide if that's the type of relationship that you want.

I personally would not be able to handle that. but I also know People do long distance. but again, What's crazier is like I bet people would write in long distance and say they talk more than. potentially you talk to your boyfriend, Who lives like down the block from you, and that makes me sad for you. um, and if he says listen, like i'm not gonna lie, i've noticed it too, and i'm Really just been so busy and i've been stressed, and like i'm so sorry and i'm so sorry.

You've been feeling this way. I think that's great. And sometimes people just need to recalibrate. I think sometimes we can overthink things and Life is fucking stressful. I'm like it's so Exhausting.

having a job, having friends, having family, having a relationship like how do we juggle all of it? I don't know, but i'm sorry, that really sucks and I don't know. I feel like once I get a boyfriend, i'm just like It's weird if we're not hanging out at least every other night. Why does he not want to hang out with you more than once a week, you know?

I take birthdays very seriously and already had plans for me and my boyfriend. Should I cave and just celebrate without my boyfriend this year? So he can go to this event, or should I say something and ask him to skip it? And spend time with me instead. Okay.

I am the wrong person to ask this, because i'm sorry. um, I don't give a fuck about my birthday. Obviously. I'm really happy, i'm alive, But I really don't give a shit about my birthday, Which I don't know. if that's weird, being a leo, that I don't care about my birthday, But I really don't give a fuck, and so i'm not gonna lie.

You may not like my answer, but this is my honest answer. um, You should get your fucking ass to your boyfriend's best friend's bridal shower and the next weekend, celebrate your birthday like. I think what you're forgetting is you're one person, and I understand you were birthed that weekend and god bless, and i'm so happy You're also alive with me here on this planet earth. Okay, but, sweetheart, This is a bridal party, which means there are people coming from out of state. There are planners.

There are caterers. There are multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple people And things that these people are having to plan in order for it to be this weekend And because it is a year out from their wedding. Maybe this is like sentimental to them and they wanted to do it exactly a year out. I don't know. but when it comes to weddings like I'm love you to death.

I don't know you, but I love you to death, but i'm gonna be real. um, You saying it's so annoying. They scheduled it on my birthday weekend. I don't think they're planning anything around your birthday because, as adults, who the fuck plans anything around other people's birthdays like ooh, like i'm, I don't want to like go on this trip because it's your birthday or it's it's like, oh my god, My, i'm pretty sure it was someone's birthday at my wedding and like they didn't bring it up and i'm sure they celebrate like. I really worry for you.

I worry for you that this could come off like Insensitive and bratty. This is the thing. I will say okay, ready for this, You, I hope you live a very long life. I hope you live until a hundred years old. Every single year of your life You get to celebrate your birthday.

how amazing is that for someone who loves their birthdays? you get to celebrate every year. You get to make it your birthday motherfucking month every year. if you love your birthday so much, I'm assuming you do a birthday month, right? so what I would say is Every year you get to celebrate.

these people are getting married once, hopefully. who knows, they make a divorce, but they're getting married currently once in their life. and so To think with love that for two years on your exact birthday You may need to suck it up and support your boyfriend's best friend and their life and celebrating their life together, i'ma go ahead and say Suck it the fuck up. Okay, and that may be controversial to all my birthday people out there. I can't relate.

So, I don't know you don't need to take my advice, but I would say this is being a little dramatic. You can easily easily with you and your boyfriend, The night before or the night after, or the weekend before or the weekend after, You can celebrate your birthday. put your fucking boyfriend in birthday jail. In my brain, this is what jail would look like, and every single weekend before that bridal party, Make him celebrate your fucking birthday. Honestly, if I ever dated someone that did that to me, not only would I break up with them?

I would block them and I would fucking Literally shit on them for the rest of eternity. in my brain. That's just me. Um, yeah, I I don't think that you can make this about you. Unfortunately, all jokes aside, I really feel like you have so many birthdays that you can celebrate.

This is unfortunate. I understand you and I hear you that you take your birthday really seriously, But I think we got to move on from this. and my only other question is maybe, just maybe. um, you should look inward of why this is so upsetting to you, because Maybe you are just one of those people that really gives a fuck about the birthday so much, and it's just that. or Maybe like.

do you feel like your boyfriend's not giving you as much attention recently? So like you're using your birthday as an opportunity to connect with him and make like get attention? I don't know. that could literally not be the case. You literally just may love fucking birthdays.

You are literally the mother fucking birthday, queen bitch. You are the birthday girl. How about this? would this make it better? obviously you're a fan of.

you know the show. Obviously, you're a supporter of the show. Love you. Love it here. Happy birthday To you.

I wish I fucking knew your name. I feel like you're like a. You're like a um.

Let's call you, margaret, happy birthday.

To you.

Happy birthday To you. Happy birthday.

Happy birthday.

Let's keep it fucking moving. Um, but mad, if you don't give me a motherfucking birthday gift, I will literally kill you anyways. Yeah, birthday gifts are great. But, like, you know, Not everyone needs to fucking give a fuck about your birthday, margaret. Okay, and how about that?

You just got a happy birthday sing-along from alex cooper on. call her daddy. Clip this and fucking show it to the bridal party and be like guys. It's my birthday. Can we all sing along to alex this year?

Make it about you. I'm, just kidding. If you fucking did that, I would literally like break up with you if I was your boyfriend. Honestly, love you. Love you to death.

move the fuck on, daddy gang. That is it for this week's episode. Here's the thing. Father is back. Oh, i'm just so fucking happy.

I have this new room. It makes me feel so cozy to be in here. I feel like i'm like I don't know. I feel like it's so different than the call her daddy studios, Which I think is fun and exciting. Obviously, the color daddy studios are pink and fun and flirty, and this is very like, oh, let's get cozy, Let's talk about the real shit, Let's talk about fucking bitches that love their birthdays and let's just fucking really tell the tea of the tea.

daddy gang, I would just like to say thank you so much for always supporting the show. Being a father means more to me and, honestly, this is my first father's day as a married man, which is very exciting, and i'm quite Excited. I feel like my dick grew an inch and i'm feeling fucking good as shit that father's day. Father's day feel pretty fucking good this year. So I love you all to all of my daddies out there around the world.

um, God bless you anyways. Um, goodbye. shout out to you, margaret. shout out to everyone else that wrote in this week. I have so many more questions that I could have answered, but I just feel like i'm not gonna lie.

It is father's day. So I think I should go treat myself to a little motherfucking cocktail and Go have some good sex, because everyone should have some good sex on father's day. daddy gang, you know the motherfucking drill. I will see you fuckers this wednesday. Bye.