These Bad Decisions Will Steal Your Wealth
2024-04-04 01:55:46
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live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions. it's the Ramsey show where we help people build wealth, do work that they love and create actual, amazing relationships. I'm, Dave Ramsey, your host. my co-host today is Rachel Cruz, number one best-selling author, co-host of smart money, happy hour and author also a brand new second best-selling book of hers on the kids list. it comes out April 16th and it's up for sale right now and we have been test marketing it among the grandkids and it's working.
I'm glad for where I am. the first one was I'm glad for what I have, and so her new book coming out soon. so she's gonna be helping me with your questions today. the phone numbers triple, eight, eight, two, five, five, two, two, five. Micah is with us to start off this hour.
he's in Huntsville. hey, Micah, welcome to.
the Ramsey show. hi, Dave, thanks for taking my call. sure what's up? okay? so I just started the baby steps like last month and I have $1,000 in the emergency fund.
already it's getting springtime and my yards are getting pretty high. I'm needing a lawnmower and I don't currently have the cash to pay for one, but I I mean I got like $2,000 that I could put down on, not not finance, but just buy a cheap one, or I could hire somebody to cut my grass for the summer, while I save to buy a nicer lawnmower. because I live on like 10 acres, which I'm not gonna keep 10 acres cut, but just wondering your thoughts on what I should do on that. okay, so how much do you actually keep cut? about four or five.
okay, and how have you been doing it before now? well, we just built the house.
last year, and so I really haven't had a yard. oh okay, after all the dozer work was done, it was just kind of like a mud hole. yeah. so uh, we're planting grass, though, and I keep trying to keep about four or five acres cut. okay, so it's not.
been cut prior to now, or if it was somebody else, did it right, correct it.
was. it was a 10 acre pasture. it was bush hogged up until the time we built.
how much debt do you have, Micah? oh, currently we have just the mortgage and then we also have a a car payment. the car is about 28,000 and we're on track.
to pay it off by the end of the year. what's your house all done with it after taxes? about 90,000? okay, all right. well it, you know the thing on something like this.
the beautiful thing about you calling is you're actually thinking about it, because at this time last year, you, if you were facing the same thing, you would've gone and financed a $8,000 stupid tractor of some kind, right that?
you couldn't afford that my dad. my dad listened to y'all. I was growing up, so I may have. the only stupid decision I've ever made was to buy the car and finance it, and the only reason I did it was my wife and I would both had faithful vehicles, but we was outgrowing the car that we was in with a family vehicle and.
you used that as an excuse to buy something you couldn't afford. yeah, okay, yeah, pretty much, yeah, all right. and the okay. so it's a. you know, it's a math thing.
if your goal is to pay off the car, the more we spend on the lawn through service or tractor purchase either one, the shorter I mean, the longer the car debts gonna hang around, obviously. so if you put every thousand you put towards this issue of lawn is a thousand not going towards reducing the car. so obviously what you're asking is what you know. what's the least way we can do this? I don't know.
I guess get a bid from somebody on what it'll take to mow it and then compare that to what you could buy used riding lawnmower on on Facebook.
marketplace for. well, I mean, if I drop 2,500 on a lot more I could, I could do that next month, but it would just push the. yeah, it pushes it out 2,500 but are.
you gonna? what are you gonna spend to cut the thing all summer if you pay somebody else to do it? probably more than 2,500, I would guess. right? yes, sir, yeah, so I mean the cheapest way to do it is to buy a the least priced used lawnmower that will get you through the summer.
okay, that's the cheapest way to.
do it. I had one more question, if you don't mind sure we've been starting our budget every dollar budget. we started that this month and the miscellaneous category is kind of tough for me to figure out how much to put in miscellaneous each month, just because that fluctuates pretty good bit. when we got, we got two kids under two. I mean they can get sick at the drop of a hat or they might go a couple months without getting sick.
we've just there's expenses that we don't plan for. sometimes that occurred during the month and I just don't want to kill our budget by not planning it. no, yeah, I would probably up.
it at the beginning and then, once you guys, once you guys have done this, like three or four months, there's usually a consistent, or how it worked in our house, that consistent thing that keeps coming every month, that we throw in the miscellaneous, that we end up just making a budget line item for now, like if kids.
are going the doctor every three months or two months, then that's a budget line item. yes, sir, I mean, and if you got two under two, it's like a rule, you have to pay the pediatricians Porsche payment. I mean, oh, my gosh, you know, it's like you have to go over there. it's federal law, right, and so the kids are gonna do that. when they're little bitties they do that.
yeah, you're gonna have some truth, you know. so it's really not a surprise, it really wouldn't shock you. and, and right to Rachel's point, if it reoccurs, then you just make a line item for it and put an amount in that say kids, medical, okay, and every dollar, and then you lower whatever you put in there. you lower your miscellaneous by that. yeah, but, and I?
would say to Micah into anyone listening, that is budgeting for the first time that miscellaneous category, I would make it higher than what you think you need, because there's going to be expenses in your life that you don't even realize because you haven't been budgeting right, and so you're gonna go through a few months of it to be able to say oh my gosh, okay, that's the thing that keeps coming up. or oh, we got this. we got this way more under control, and so we can actually lower the miscellaneous. so I would be more conservative, more liberal, conservative, higher, higher amount on the miscellaneous category. for now, Micah, especially, it's not political, more liberal, you're not a liberal freedom, it's just more money.
you never know, you never know, yeah, so how?
much is a lawnmower, though, for real? no, I mean you can buy a push push mower right now on a used push mower. yeah, all day long on Facebook marketplace for 50 bucks, but five acres, yeah, it's like 73 days. you'll be cutting out how much is.
like a zero turn? I don't know. do you like that? probably look at that so.
probably probably a couple guys. he's probably all five grand. you can pick it up for two. I used one, but it's not one you want. it's one to get the grass cut with.
yeah, so it won't make bread and it won't catch fish while you're mowing, and some of them will. so some of them will do it with GPS. yeah, no, we're, just we're trying to basically cut the grass. that's all I wonder in Huntsville, what I was.
thinking is like some kid this summer is gonna. what is gonna be doing this for?
their job, I know, but 25, 2,000 bucks for the whole summer for five acres, I doubt it. yeah, I doubt it. I might be wrong. it seems like a lot, I don't know how. okay, but that's the analysis.
I want to go back to the other thing, because when you first start budgeting liberal wheat, no, no, no, we're not. we're not worried about that, because you'll get just get thrown out of the family. but the we're not to fire you. but but anyway, I'm here for all people. yes, we love all people, but we aren't all people.
I'm here, we love them, but that doesn't mean we want to be them. okay, so the anyway. anyway, I'm a conspiracy theorist, I'm not just I'll, just I'll own that label, that that one you can have. yeah, that one's legal. okay.
so the miscellaneous. it takes 90 days of doing your budget for your budget to start to work, and part of it is the things you don't expect to come when you first start doing this, like kids, medical or activity fees at school or so on. so give yourself some grace to lean into that over the first 90 days. this is the Ramsey show. buying your first home is a big deal and sets the stage for your financial success.
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best-selling author. my daughter is my co-host today. Melody's in Atlanta. hi, Melody, how are you? I'm good.
how are you better than we deserve? how can we help?
so we are within two weeks, in theory, of having our firstborn ahead and trying to.
yay, what are you having? excited little boy. all right, very fun congratulations.
thank you, just trying to figure out best options for investments moving forward past, just like work 401ks and what we can kind of do as well extra to have him.
set up. okay, this is for your son you're thinking for specifically. are you guys as a family, or like as a couple, family as a family? okay, are you guys that go after work when the time comes? yes, yes, yes, yes, are you.
are you guys working your way out of debt or are you out now? no, we are out of debt. we finished paying.
off our house two weeks ago. oh, way to go. oh, my gosh, you're 100% debt-free, yes.
there's a way to go. so you guys are. both cards are paid for. one was when I haven't we got married. the other one we paid cash for a little over about two.
years ago. I guess, gosh, that's so impressive, how much you guys make a year.
it's actually. my husband works very, very hard. it ranges. he has a salary, but then he has like on the road per diem, and then he has like premium time he can make as well. so so how much do you make?
a year salary is just a little over a hundred and then his take home last year was a little over two. okay, that's.
excellent, awesome. yeah, I mean I would stick with match, maxing out what you can and maxing out well, you guys will be beyond the Roth. I think you, I think it's.
they can do a rock back door. no, I'm gonna do a Roth, I mean if he's under 200 AGI. so probably somewhere around there, you can do back door or regular. you need to be maxing out both Roths. you need to be maxing out 401ks, hopefully in a Roth with a match, and you max out your 529 for the kiddo and or Matt.
you don't have to max it out, but put five. you know seven, six or eight, ten grand in there a year, and if you do that, he's gonna go to college anywhere he wants to go. if you do that, he's gonna go to college anywhere he wants to go. and if you put all you can put in 401ks and Roths, how old are you guys? he's 32, I'm 30.
okay, that alone, at 65, will have you between five and ten million dollars just doing.
that okay. you said both rocks. yeah, so you can have one, a spousal a spousal.
even though you don't work, you can open one melody under your name right, so we.
have 401k with his work, and then that's what I. we are the Roth IRA, like the personal one. yes, I've been trying to do some research on that, but yes, a little.
confused. yes, you can do a Roth IRA each 6,000 and he can max out his 401k if he has a Roth option on the 401k. it should be doing that, okay, okay, so what you need to do is jump on Ramsey solutions, calm and click on smart Vesta and find a smart Vesta Pro in your area. these are the mutual fund brokers that we recommend and you can find one that has. they have the heart of a teacher, or we don't put them on there.
so they're gonna sit down and teach you what is best and what these numbers will turn into. so you're gonna be very, very wealthy if you just do that now. once you've maxed out all of that stuff, you're at what we call baby step 7 no debt at all. there's nothing left to do. but become extremely wealthy and be wildly generous.
that's it. that's all you got left at it. so, and enjoy some money in the process. but the so you know. beyond that, then you start talking about okay, am I gonna do more mutual fund investing or am I gonna pay cash for some rental real estate?
if you want to be in that world, that kind of thing. those are the two things I have done beyond maxing out everything, but your first step is get the 529 started for kiddo. once he's got a social security number, he's arrived. then you can do that and do that a month or two here, and you guys max out the 401 with the match and max out both Roths. that's a first.
that's a really good start. and again, if that's all you ever do for the next 30 years, it's gonna be millions and millions and millions of dollars. so you're gonna be in great shape. but why not even do more, you know, and why not enjoy more? and why not be even more generous?
so sit down with a smart.
pro and they'll help you do all that. yeah, and for kids, because I I've talked to a lot of families who are like okay, if we max everything out, what investment options besides just education, mm-hmm, can I do for my kids? you don't. and well, they're up. my accounts there's, I mean there's other.
you can, but I wouldn't I.
would, I would just build it in your. build wealth in your name and then leave.
it to them as a part of the estate when they, when the parent dies, though that's.
that's well, are you could? you could, if you want to hand them some money. yeah, yeah, that's what I was saying. you could hand them money early. yeah, there's no point in putting it in their name.
yeah, there's. no, you know, because you don't have it you lose control and you lose options. so when you build wealth, you're building wealth for your whole family. your family's gonna get the use of the wealth. so there's no point in putting in the kids name, because I mean the kid may decide that there you know they may have all kinds of problems or something you know they can get to.
yeah, they own it, mm-hmm, but not my. what 18 though? 21 on the hotline. but yeah, uniform transfer to minors act is when you open an account in the child's name, you TMA, and put your name on it as the custodian, but you do not have control of it. so he's doing heroin at 21.
he's got a million dollars. not this kid, but another kid, the kids doing a million. he's got a million dollars. you just killed your kid. I know you're gonna access that and they're gonna overdose on heroin.
so you have to control it. no, I mean so dramatic. no, but this is what happens. I mean I've been doing this 30 years, I know, but I'm just.
saying, though, for a family okay, because because say you're like, okay, is you know? you think about melody. they freaking, have everything paid off. I know I'm going, I'm going down a road, so follow me, I'll try everything paid off there. they have a baby born in a month.
so in 18 years, say, melody and her husband are like, yeah, we'll help with like the down payment on the home, because he's not doing heroin and he's awesome, he's has a job, he's paying taxes, he's responsible. yeah, he's a great kid, he's a great kid. this was this one. this one's gonna turn out and it's like great, we, we have melody and husband, so much money and we want to help our kids continue that legacy. so we want to, you know, say, hey, here's a down payment for a home, or here's something that is not college related.
yeah, you can, isn't there a gift attack like, doesn't that get into like?
you can avoid gift tax with uniform transfer to minors act, which is a no, what, I'm sorry, you unified a state. okay, I picked up the wrong uni. okay, unified estate track tax credit and you can avoid it and move money anytime you need to. and of course, the other thing is this you can, okay, gift tax this year's what I don't know, 15,000 bucks or whatever, yeah, something like that. and so let's say that if you want to give your grown kids some money, I need to look, James, find the gift tax and tell me what it is.
but the because I can't remember nothing. oh, it's right here, it's on my notebook. oh, hello, I got this cheat sheet I should use all right, cuz I. well, they change it, they up it for inflation. every year 17,000, okay.
so if a married couple, yeah, has a grown married child in their 20s, yes, there's four players involved. yep, mom can give daughter-in-law and son 17 each two checks. okay, dad can give daughter-in-law and son 17 each in 60,000. yes, yeah, yeah, okay. and so that that's $64,000, yeah, or $68,000, okay, in one year, if you happen to do it at Christmas, you do it again three weeks later and you got 128,000.
okay, right, okay, so you know you can get to just about anywhere you want to get to, just using that without even using the unified estate tax credit, which means you're using up some of your estate exemptions in the federal by using it against gift tax. so you can get your money to your kids, yeah, while you're.
alive, because that's part of all of this, you guys, is it's changing your family tree, and we talked about that. yes, that is, that is knowledge, that's character, like there's so much there. but also, I think about the reality of so many people listening now that are so young and if they start doing this, they're gonna look so much money. I have so much money in 20 years, and part of changing that family tree is what does this look like? you know, all three of you, three of.
you turned out so far okay and so so far right, and so you can use. none of you state, none of you had, none of you had big accounts in your names. yeah, except that your college funds were utmost because there was not a 529 back then, and we handed your utma to you. yeah, that was your old college fund because we'd cash flow, the college, and you guys use that for your first houses, and that got you going on your wealth stuff. but you didn't have a million dollars in your name when you graduate from college because I know, but I did I had a million dollars in my name and then I could do stuff with it if I wanted to.
I hear you.
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so this comes out now. you're going to be doing signings in several cities. are we announcing that? yet I am, I don't have.
all the details, but signings will be in LA, Dallas, Phoenix and Atlanta. so story time yeah, so I'm gonna do a story time. yeah, local Barnes & Nobles. we'll get you the exact addresses and times. so probably around one o'clock.
signings and those cities coming up in two weeks. so so excited and Ken Coleman's new book.
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that's not only fulfilling, but it turns out when you love what you do and when you're good at it and you're fulfilling and you're fulfilled at it, you will make the most you've ever made in your life, which is part of the goal here. and so very few people maximize their income doing something they hate and that they suck at very time. very few. they're just highly unusual. so this.
but that book is also in pre-sale. it comes out technically and we'll ship it to you first week of May. and so all of those are on sale. and that's what's happening around here right now. all right, Rachel is with us in Salt Lake City.
hi, Rachel, welcome to the Ramsey show. hi, hi there. how are you good? how can we?
help. yes, I'm, excuse me, I'm extremely nervous to talk to you and been following you for the last four months, really happily, after having a sister non-stop in my ear about they listen, anyone with an accent as cool as yours.
should not be nervous. so is it British or Australian? what am I missing, so where?
are you from in the UK? from Paul from Dorset? oh really, but we're actually emigrated two years ago and I'm going to try and make this. it seems like an easy question, but it's complicated, so I'm going to try not ramble. we emigrated two years ago because we couldn't do in the UK what we wanted to do here, which was buy land build.
my husband has been in construction for 15 years and it's really good at it. we raised all the capital, we came here and within a month I was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer and all of our money went to keeping me alive about $36,000 worth of credit card debt. I'm calling that a good investment. yeah right, but still so. we're not massively in that $36,000 of credit card debt, but, long story short, my husband.
on top of that, his dad, passed away very suddenly. it was healthy and passed very suddenly last year, and we're about to receive roughly about what we've spent on keeping me alive back in inheritance from his father's estate. and we are in lock has. my husband is sitting next to me. he didn't want to be on speaker because he has an accent too and he didn't think you'd hear him properly, but we were just in a place where we're following your steps and we know we should pay the debt off that we're.
we're in disagreement with what that money should do, because he knows he can take that and he can change our lives within eight to ten months by investing what his dad's inheritance will bring and put it straight into out clear, with six months in the bank saving out of that. yeah, how much? how much money is this? it's 120, but lands only about 28,000 here and he can knock it up real quick. so it's it's and we can sell it for 350.
so the numbers work. he's not just. it's not a pipe dream. he, we've done the numbers. we came out with a business plan.
we do know.
what we're doing. but we're so. you're going to build something for a hundred and twenty eight thousand dollars that you can sell for 350. that's correct.
right. okay, let's see, there's going to be fees and but then, with the plan, is to reinvest it and then go to a piece of land that he can do for on and, you know, to grow from that. that was what we came here to do normal builder margins in the.
United States of America are nowhere near that. this is a numbers I've never.
seen before, and I do a lot of real estate. I understand we have run the numbers. we've got an estate agent. we've looked at the market. I mean 350 from the higher side.
wife Keith Mary, it's going to be three, three hundred and my husband's doing the work himself. so he's he's not having to be obviously like I said we. he's been in construction for 15 years, so he knows how to do ground up. he does everything and it's qualified just in about just about everything you can imagine. so we're doing this well, you know, we've not got a whole lot of labor cost because my husband is doing this while I'm I'm working and keeping her.
bills paid through my job a guy building a house completely by himself he'll have.
help, but it's just not going to cost a lot, because if their labor is because he.
knows what he's doing rich. do you guys have any other savings? do you guys have?
any other savings? um, we don't. like I said, well, we've got the thousand, we've got. the emergency fund restarted our debt snowball as well. so we're into our debt snowball.
but, like I said, it's. we were arguing back and forth because I want to clear the debt and then wait and he's saying it's going to take. he worries if I relapse or anything else goes wrong and we'll never get this opportunity again. he's, he's. he's worried that if we don't do this now.
yeah. so here's what makes me nervous about it, Rachel, because I mean I trust you guys that you run the numbers. you know what you're doing. it's not a question of that, but whenever you make a decision, that is so single focus and the way you, the language you're using or the language that he's using, that you're telling us it is this urgency, it's this. if I don't do this now, it's never going to happen again, and you can plug in that, Rachel, that scenario, that language, with kids going to college about it.
I got accepted this class. if I don't get, if I don't go this fall, then then then this, this and this isn't gonna happen. or or someone buying a house and they'll tell us it's, it's the only house, this is the only house we can do, it's our only option. and when you start to do that, Rachel, you start to lose the ability to make decisions because you don't have options. and so what I would say is I would slow down.
I I really believe you guys know what you're doing. he's very talented, he's really good at what he does, and but that's the business side of of his world. but what we're talking about here is is your personal home and your personal debt and where you guys are, and this inheritance is coming in, and so I would I would clear it, because the urgency of the other option as well, it usually people don't make great decisions when it's in that, when you're in, that positions that make sense, yeah.
this is a fatalistic language. um the what do you make? we make about a hundred and ten between us a year. okay, so why can you not pay off thirty six thousand?
dollars in 12 months because we're paying. I agree, you're gonna hate me, babe, don't make me tell you. we have our kids in private. we have two children in Christian private school and that takes quite a lot. we tried public school and my daughter has autism and my son has gastroparesis, and the state just wouldn't work with us.
we're around that. so we move them into a private school. we, we do. what do you do for a living? amazing.
I am a piano and voice teacher and my husband obviously owns a construction company and he's doing construction now. yes, he is, so he's working, for he takes, you know, picks up projects and is working, but wants to be working for himself what we came to do, so yeah.
Rachel, I had to go back in, listen, as mom, all the health stuff that you guys have been through and then, as you just explained, with your two kids. I'm like I would not want risk, I would want everything paid and I want a pile of money in the bank because the amount of situations that can come up for you guys.
so is a lot. so the answer, the question is no, I would not build the house, I would pay off the debt and I would go. if I'm your husband, I'm gonna start doing renovations and rehabs for other people, self-employed because he has the ability to do this. he can make a lot more money than he's making now and build that business and build some cash base back up and then go do this or the deal, because I got to tell you I've been doing this a long time and I know a lot about building. I'm building a house right now and the numbers are giving me they don't work.
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A couple of circle backs before I get 9,000 comments about how dumb I am at taxes, because I am, and that would be accurate. but there's no reason to make it worse. so the gift tax is not $17,000. even my cheat sheet that was in front of me because my brain doesn't remember all these things, was wrong, and so it's actually $18,024. so an individual can give an individual $18,000 without any gift tax or income tax if you give.
if an individual gives an individual more than that or not not, if you're not a nonprofit, okay, then you're going to and you're going to get gift tax. but I can give an individual 18,000 and then my wife can give an individual 18,000, and so that gets them 36,000. and so with grown children that are married, you can do it four times. you know, father to daughter, father to son-in-law, daughter or mom to daughter, mom to son-in-law. right, and so that creates four checks of 18,000.
so that would be $72,000. you can move. so sorry guys, just don't need to get your hate later. you hate me for a lot of things that I don't even do, that when I actually did so. the other thing is this I want to.
I want to continue our conversation just a little bit just in general. so the last caller, Rachel, you brought up the most important part on that call, which is that when you narrow it down to, I've got just one shot. yeah, and if I miss that one shot on any decision that you're making, you are now rationalizing the decision, because it is not a fact that you only have one shot. so there's if I don't get this house, I'm never going to get a house. if I don't buy this car, I'm never going to get a car.
God only put one person on the entire planet for me to marry, and if I miss that one, I'm going to not be married. bullcrap, okay, just bad thinking skills. so anytime that you allow anxiety, the stress and strain of life, the tragedies of life, the fact you've been fighting cancer or anything else to narrow you down to one singular decision, Rachel's point it was that.
you're gonna make a bad decision. yeah, yeah, yeah, and we find that a lot with people, because you know, because money is a tool you know in your life that you're using. and when life is hard or life feels out of control or life feels like I'm ashes this one thing, then you use that tool money, to go and try to get the control and try to get that control back. yeah, and and so there is a. there is a patience to slow down and to say let me gather some more options, option a, B and C, and out of that then you can start making okay, maybe, maybe the answer still is a, for whatever your situation is.
but at least you've researched and you've thought, and you've taken time to look at B and C, because, man, we just because, I don't know, we talk to people all the time and it was like we're in a house and we shouldn't have bought it. but we just thought it was really good deal. we didn't think we could find another deal like this. so we got in it and turns out it wasn't? you know, like you get in this mindset and it's just really it's really.
dangerous. so a couple of the sit-to-sit. bad decisions are one of the primary thing, those things that steal your wealth. so decision-making principles are important. so decision-making principle number one if you think there's only one or two things to do, you haven't spent enough time gathering up options.
options are power. options are informative. options cause you to really think clearly, and so you know, you know, like the people that call in, they go well, we've got mold in our house and the only other house that we can live in is four thousand dollars a month, and we make five thousand. so do we buy a house and go bankrupt, or do we stay in the moldy house and kill our children? you know, and, like you, have two stupid but options, and I'm supposed to choose between these two.
see, none of the above. keep looking. you haven't figured it out yet, you know. and so that's the kind of thing we're talking about. we get that call actually.
so that's call it more than once over the years, and so it's just because you justify the crap out of doing something you don't need to do.
well, and fear will do that too. did you hear that in your example of mold in the house, which is very real, but also her husband and the last call? he said what if you relapse? just said that you know, and there's a level of fear there, and
so facts. John Maloney says, when you're facing trauma, facts are your friends. yeah, and facts are more and more and more, and that's a number number two decision-making principle. slow down to the extent of the size of the decision. quit spending all your calories on nothing decisions.
some people spend more time deciding which gum to purchase in the gas station than they do which car to purchase. you spent your calories on the wrong thing. the bigger the decision, the more time. and then you know I can't. I'm frozen within decision dentine or eclipse.
and but I, but I impulsed a Porsche. you know it's like. this is the backwards right here. you know it's so. the the size of the decision means you need to slow down and have more and more options.
and then the length of and patience there. your pulse rate needs to drop. if you got house fever, go take a cold shower. your pulse rate needs to drop. you're about to do something stupid, because you can just hear it.
you can hear the anxiety in the in people's voices when they call in here with these things, and not just her. she was, she's a sweet girl. she was nervous as part of it too, but there's a high level of emotion. then go back one more thing on her call, because I really need to get this out here for her to hear and her husband to hear, but also everybody else. okay, the option of taking your hundred and twenty eight thousand and putting it into a spec house, building a house from the ground up on a piece of real estate and flipping it immediately.
a spec house of speculation builder, spec house is one option. but let me just tell you I grew up in the construction business. I've had my real estate license since I was 18 and I'm older than dirt, so I've been doing this stuff a long, long time. I can tell you for sure that if you have builder skills, you show up on time, you finish the project of renovation or new construction on time and you build a budget and stick to the budget. you are an unusual animal.
you are very, very marketable, because most people in the construction business can't even show up, much less finish, and their numbers are so screwed that they piss everybody off. they're dealing with because they don't show up on time. they miss their numbers and they don't finish on time, and so they never get repeat business because they make everybody mad that they're dealing with if you'll just show up on time, you, you can own the world and finish on time and hit your numbers. you can own the world. so that young man, if he can do the deal he thinks he can do.
he can do renovations and make $300,000 a year. yeah, he can grow a renovation and new and custom housing business, build decks, put porches on the back, whatever it is. he can make a bazillion dollars if he has the skill set that she says he has, and I don't doubt it. yeah. and if he can actually pull off projects.
yeah, show up on time, take a bath, you know, and finish the project on time and hit your numbers. you got no competition because nobody else in that space hardly does it, very few do. and the ones that do end up being custom home builders for the rich, yeah, because they're excellent at what they do exactly, yeah. and so you got, dude. you got so much potential out there if you do that that you I I think you could take that earn.
you can take $128,000 minus $36,000 with a credit card debt. use that to do some some renovations, parlay your way into 300,000 in cash and go, do you a couple of these specs later if your numbers are right and I'm wrong because I think your numbers are unrealistic. but if I'm wrong about that, which I'm happy to be wrong, I hope. I hope I'm wrong. I hope you make a hundred.
I hope you make a hundred percent margin on a construction project, but it's very unusual, not doesn't happen, okay. so if you can do that, then you can do what I'm talking about, with what's left over after you pay the credit card debt off.
yeah, and that's your third option. that's right, that's right, and it's a classic to example, which is happens in so many families and so many marriages, as you kind of got your realist in your dreamer right. oh yeah, and it's like oh just give me this, give me this shot, give me this shot. right, and not that all dreamers are wrong, because sometimes it it's right. but also, I would say to him listen to your wife, the, the emotional space in your home.
bring the peace. bring the peace. I'm not owing anyone anything. bring the peace of having savings in the bank, like bring the peace, and then and then let's focus on everything else.
let's go grow this construction. yeah, for a wife that's been sick and kids that are sick all of it, I'm like oh yeah, this shame idea that I spent the money our family was gonna get rich on to save me from cancer, and I'm ashamed. that's ridiculous. no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, so no, your family's gonna be fine, even though you had cancer. this is the Ramsey show.
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open phones at triple 8, 8, 2, 5, 5, 2, 2, 5. Tara is with us in Louisville, Kentucky. hi, Tara, welcome to the Ramsey show.
thank you. there you are. you cut out a little bit. oh, I'm sorry, I'm standing as close to a window as I can. you're right.
are you ready for the question? we'll try. okay, we're looking for advice on what we can do for financing for flipping houses. we currently used our home equity line of credit for the purchasing and remodeling, but of course that payment gets a little high. so we're just looking.
for something, some ideas of what to do. okay, I've probably done 1,500 or 2,000 flips in my life. okay, what I used to do for a living before I went broke because I borrowed money doing flips. so for 35 years I've taught people not to borrow money as a primary way to lower risk and create wealth. I don't borrow money, and so I'm not going to be able to help you borrow money.
okay, what, then? what do you?
would I mean? do you just straight out advice, just cash for flipping a house?
yes, okay, and here's there's a lot of reasons why. okay, when you use financing to purchase a house that you're going to flip, you're not as careful as when you use money out of your bank account to purchase a house to flip. when you are using financing to do the renovation on the flip, you're not as careful as when you're pulling your stinking hard-earned money out of your checking account to do the renovation and you end up spending more on the purchase, more on the renovation. thus your margins are lower. oh, and then, when you get ready to sell it and interest rates tick up from three to seven and the market slows down dramatically, and you're sitting on this thing with payments, you become what's called a motivated seller and you give up the rest of your margin.
so your margins are destroyed when you do flips for those three reasons with financing. so I would go a lot slower, buy a lot smaller, buy something seriously junky and and tiny and flip it with cash out of your pocket. use every bit of the profits from that to do that, to upgrade your flip to the next one. upgrade your flip to the next one and upgrade your organically. grow your cash base with profits to increase the quality of the flip that you're doing, because what you are doing causes more people to go broke than it prospers more people, including me.
okay, so I'm really scared for you, because the thing that has to go through your mind when you're doing these deals is that this is all going to work and it never. in real estate, I've done thousands of transactions. it never works exactly the way you thought it was going to. yep, that's exactly right, and.
you know, Tara, my husband just even this last year, he's kind of started and he's done three flips. yeah, and and you know, and we've cash flowed it, and you're right, you, and he's good at real estate and he does it. so I can't, I can't take any credit. but yeah, there's like you know, it's a state sale. there's dead rats in the house.
I mean it's it, they're not pretty properties. but then, when you go and what you're saying, you make the selections and it's us making the selections out of our own account. you are like, okay, what can we do here, here to save money? here I mean you were thinking through everything. we brought the kids out to do the yard work weekend over Easter to help move some stuff before they went through, and like tore out the bushes.
and you know, I mean you just think about it, different. it's just and it's a slower process. it's not as fun and flashy, but there's. there's so much less risk. and if something were to happen, you're okay.
you're okay because you're not, you don't owe a bank something you know like. it just goes back to the options, like we talked about.
the last hour. I mean let's pretend there was a Fauci pandemic or something like that, and the market just froze like a deer in the headlights and nobody's leaving their home and they're cuddled up in the corner with their mask. well,
and what happened with you was that you had so many of those going and you were good at it. yeah, and because of that you, Mac, you kept building on it and making a.
bigger, bigger risk. and then, when I had a million seven in finance flips at 24 years old, I owed the bank a million seven. remind it, remind everybody, because
that was 1984, decades ago, because I'm a million seven now for some people okay.
so it would be eight million now. okay, yeah, so I had the equivalent of eight million dollars financed in today's dollars under flips at 24 years old in 1984. there's one way 1,000,007, 1,000,001 with one bank, and this is how I learned not to borrow money. yeah, and I had. I had 30% equity positions and almost every one of them.
I was not laid on a single note. so what happened, Dave? what happened to your little house of cards? the bank got sold a small-town bank doing business with me. they knew I knew what I was doing.
my family had been the real estate business, got a history family history of knowing what we're doing. all the sudden, some bozo in Atlanta instead of Nashville is making a decision and he looked down and said a 24 year old owes us a million three. have we lost our minds as a bank? answer yes, but, and they called our notes, which they have the right to do with commercial paper. it has a call provision in it if they don't like the quality of collateral.
and they suddenly just declared that they didn't like the quality of their collateral anymore. and now I've got to come up with a million three, and I'm 24 years old. it's all tied up in real estate and I probably got 30,000 bucks in cash because I was a freaking genius and had it all figured out. now there's your tick-tock deal right there. you tick-tock morons wanting to flip houses.
so there you go. and so that's exactly what's happening now that, and I spent the next three and a half, two and a half, three years of my life losing everything I own. and so the year Rachel was born, we end up filing bankruptcy at the bottom of it lost every stinking thing. one year I made $250,000 as $20,000 a month in 1984, dollars. the next year my taxable income was $6,000.
I spent the whole year selling stuff to avoid foreclosure or being foreclosed on on the way down into bankruptcy. so yeah, trauma, I'm a trauma survivor. so that's it. and so, Dave, don't borrow money when the borrower is slave to the lenders in the Bible. I think God's smart.
I think God knows something I don't know and I don't borrow money anymore. so all that to say Tara, I, you know the wrong guy. no, but no, you know the right guy. if some, whoever, told you to call over here, I think they set you up. but but the but.
yeah, I want you to go do flips. I mean my son-in-law doesn't want daughter's husband sitting right here and I taught him how. you know, I taught him a lot, not not everything. I taught him how to buy foreclosures and buy real estate. yeah, he worked running our Ramsey portfolio for a lot of years and still runs it, but he's, he's a and he's using the formulas right now that we talked about back in those days, and he and he's paying cash.
so I'm not against flips, but do it with cash and you make way better decisions all the way across the board and you don't turn yourself into a motivated seller and you won't hear any of that. on tick-tock, I can tell you this is the Ramsey show.
Rachel Cruz Ramsey personality, is my co-host today. Glenda is in grand in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. hi, Glenda, how are you? I am good. how are you guys?
thank you for.
accepting my call. sure, how can we help? okay, just to get it out of the way. we are FPU 20s, so I just wanted to make sure you knew that. okay, okay, so my question is we've always heard that you say mobile homes go down in depreciation.
they do. we agree. if you're in debt and you own your mobile home in the land but not in the ideal living situation, should we sell to get a house or stay? we have animals, so we can't rent and we have many, many animals we take care of. my parents and my dad has dementia and it's also affecting our marriage of where.
we're at, so what is what is affecting your marriage about where you're at we?
have family that live out. that way, the family one could be next door. there's drug use, so you want to move. you want to move away because of that too. yeah, I like, like you say yeah.
so what kind of animals have you got? chicken ducks, dogs?
cat rabbits, and how many acres do you have now? we have close to an acre. one acre close to it. yeah, but, but you're just in the country, so you get away with all that. yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, these aren't.
these aren't city, these are city chickens. okay, no, no, no, no. millennial yuppie chickens, okay, so um country.
chickens. how much could you sell everything? if you sold it, what would it?
bring. we're guessing about a hundred thousand with the land and the mobile home together. yes, because we did what? do you know nothing, we own it all right. my parents gave us the land.
we bought the mobile home, so sell it and go buy.
something, sell it and go buy something for a hundred grand. oh, we do that for a.
house, so I don't want another mobile home. no, I don't, you're not gonna get.
another mobile home. it kind of feeds the purpose. no, but you can take out you might not a mortgage, it might not be much of a house, but how much other debt have you?
okay, about 50,000 on what. oh boy, here we go, Dave.
averaging 50,000. my numbers I don't have exactly with me, but it's about 13,000 on a car. open it up in the next year. we have about a $17,000 personal loan because I got plastic surgery. I know, don't yell at me.
we have about, I'd say, about, $12,000 in student loan. just miscellaneous, but anything else is mm-hmm.
okay, yeah, okay. so what I would do is find, go out and start shopping for for a very small or not such good condition home that is stick built, that will go up in value as you fix it up on a piece of ground and you know, and try to make a move that way. okay, now then the other options are okay, because whatever the value of this mobile home is in five years, can you and I agree it's going to be way less than it is now oh, absolutely okay. so you're causing your money to go backwards every day. you keep this and you're living next to family, drug addicts, and so there's a lot of reasons to move.
but every time we do something, there's always there's the pain of staying there next to the mess and the pain of staying there with a mobile home going down. but the pain of moving to get your family away from those two things might be. no chickens, yeah, I would be fine getting away from it, yeah. and so the animals. you may have to cut the animals down to a level that you can rent for a little while, write a check and pay off everything, and have a lower animal level, and I love animals, but you got to.
make choices any situation, and it's greater in this situation, obviously from a financial and just yeah, getting away from the mess to be able to say we have peace over here, and that may mean eliminating selling off. yeah, so let's.
pretend that we could write a prescription for you if we were the doctor. okay, and here, if you go, fill this prescription, you will be wealthy. okay, so you sell the place, you go, rent something with $50,000 in the bank and zero debt, and you straighten your act up and go back through Financial Peace University. get on a budget, increase your incomes and let's pile up cash. on top of that, 50 and two years from now, let's buy a nice place for a hundred and fifty, because you have no payments except a little rent payment.
it's gonna cost you some animals and you're gonna have a lot of peace in your life because you have zero debt and zero drug use next door. and you're gonna be cleaning up you looking in the mirror and you're not gonna say I'm a dropout anymore. you're gonna go back through Financial Peace University and I'm gonna pay for it. and if you go, do all of that stuff, your life is gonna be such a completely different place four years from now, five years from now, than it is now. but if you go, do one of those things, it's not gonna work.
you're gonna be right where you are. you can't just do part of this you can't take if the doctor gives you four prescriptions, say I'm just gonna take one of them, and then gripe, cuz, you're still hurting. yeah, you know, I'm still ill, my health is still bad. so you're gonna have to do the whole thing, Linda. and if you do that, honey, you can do it.
the lady I'm talking to is not dumb. you're smart, you can do it. you just have not chosen to do it yet, mm-hmm. so now it's time to choose. so hang on.
we'll help you if you want. if you want financial peace, we'll give it to you. go back through it this time. be serious, like your life depends on it, cuz, honey, it does. the quality of your life depends on you getting your act together and dump that stuff, man, and let's make the move.
make it happen. boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. you don't have to be a mess. you're choosing to be a hot mess. change the choices and you can do it.
you're the kind of lady that can do it. you got the stuff. I'm amazed what happens when people follow through on all that, when they do the whole thing. yeah, yeah, I know, and how pitiful the results are when you.
just do part of it. yes, but the pain is you're giving up things in the present that you feel like oh my gosh. well, we need this and that, and what's the devil?
I know, it's that you know, it's the mess that I know. yep, I'm used to my mess and.
the thing is is that you can get back to part of the life that you're, you know, sacrificing right now and the things that you love right. I mean same with like a car, for instance. I know car is not an animal, but like you know, we tell people sell the car. you can get it that car again one day when you pay for it. like it's not like you never get that car again but do it the right way and even like think you know something like the animals.
it's like, yeah, maybe for a season you don't have animals, but if you really miss that, then you work towards a life to get them back and to be able to say, yeah, we want that life again, and that's the beautiful thing about it, but you're just doing it the right way, which the order is really important in that to find a success and to do it well, yeah.
that's exactly right. yeah, me and you didn't grow up on a farm, but your mom did, and her emotional attachment to animals is almost zero, my gosh. so, um, dad, they always leave because you you sell them. that's what you do. you're on a farm, that's what you do.
and so that the need to you know. so she still does not grasp the idea that that our dogs are one of our children. she can't get that. she's just like you are a weird man. and so, um, you do love a dog.
I do love a dog and I.
love babies and dogs. I know that's what a lot of people don't know internet. y'all should know that Dave can be harsh. Dave can be harsh, but not to baby. so when your dog is yeah, you came over when we had to put an all down and dad laid in the floor with our lap and cried before we put her down the night.
for me, you really are oversharing. you did what is beautiful. it's so great he love he.
does. he loves my grand dog for 10 years. I know it was terrible. a good dog, so sad.
losing dog is terrible, terrible, terrible. so we want you to be able to get back.
animal haters to that point. yeah, yeah, but sometimes you got to go yeah, 16 cats. yeah, something's got to go, you know, and that's 15 of them, or 16 in case of a cat. but yeah, not cat people. but oh, here we go, the hate, the hates going to come pouring in.
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Rachel Cruz Ramsey, personality, is my co-host today. open phones at triple 8, 8, 2, 5, 5, 2, 2, 5. Kayla is with us in Fort Worth, Texas. hey, Kayla, welcome to the.
Ramsey show. hi, thanks for taking my call. sure, how can I help? well, my husband and I were trying to figure out how to increase our income so we can meet our monthly expenses and then also paid that down kind of feel at a loss at the moment. so we're total that we have is about 37,000.
we need about 7,000 a month just to pay, meet our living expenses and then make minimum payments just on card balances. right now my husband $37,000. yes, you don't need.
$7,000 a month to do that. what in the world are your living expenses? so we're.
just looking at the expenses, like paying the rent, just living all of that and then paying down that, just the expenses that we have trying to. how much, how much?
are that? do you know how much the minimum payments are not not living?
expenses, just the debt payments, the debt payments. they're really many more right now. so we have the total credit card. debt is 7,000, for those are like 500 limits one, three thousand, two or a thousand dollar limit and those are.
about maxed out. okay, but how much money do you guys need to keep those current?
per month. what's the minimum payments on your $37,000 worth of debt, equal per?
month. so for the card payments it's just 650 a month minimum. okay. then we have another 6 to 700 a month on a larger loan of 21,000. okay.
and then you know just living expenses on top of that and the car payments okay. so 28,000. you said you're 37,000. how much is your car payment? car payment is 250 a month.
we owe nine and it's worth about ten. five, okay, okay. so yeah, you're getting up to.
$2,000 a month covers your minimums and you need $5,000 a month in addition to.
that to live 3,000. yeah, how much is rent? rent is 26, 2,600. okay, what's your?
household income. my husband just started a new job a month and a half ago. it's car sales and he just started. last month he made 1,400 total and this month, halfway through, he's made 16 just in the half month. so he's doubled that at least.
and people keep telling him at work that come the third month the back-end stuff rolls in and that it should not be hard for him to do about 10,000 a month. and he works hard at it. he's there six days a week at least. how much are you working, Kayla? we have three kids at home, five and under, and the little bit I do is like 180 a month.
it's just content writing. yeah, it's not much, so your.
your. your problem is your husband starting a new job and then he make, isn't making any money yet not correct? that's your real problem. yeah, they're.
like we're living on a prayer, waiting until it comes in. what was he doing before? last year he had quit his job of 17 years at Costco. he was working there as a supervisor. we, he quit the job.
after two or three years of calculating risk he took out. we took out the 401k that he had built up from that to move here to Fort Worth and to start a business a photography business that he had wanted to do, and he made sure there was about a year's worth of living expenses from that to live on. but nothing has come from it. so he went out and got a job a couple months ago to make sure you know we can get to the point where we can make to. you know we didn't have any credit card debt at that point he paid.
all of that off? is all the savings go? yes, yeah, so the bottom line is, Kayla, you're terrified.
this is pretty scary. you got little babies at home and no money to eat with.
yeah, pretty much yeah. I'm sorry, hun, and he's not a bad guy. he's out there working and trying. no, he's nobody's. nobody's throwing him out of the bus, but.
this is a scary situation. do you have family around? yeah, at Fort Worth um no.
they're actually back on the west coast where he moved. okay, are you guys in a good church? yes, good, yeah, we got connected. really good, because you need.
good, you need good community around you while you turn this around. so what we need to say out loud and he says it with you too is that I don't really care what the guys at work say. I care what actually happens and and so if he doesn't get his income up very rapidly at the car lot, he's going to be doing.
something else. yeah, and he's that's a struggle. he was thinking of going back to Costco, but like right now, what he just made in this half month so far, that's about the same, excuse me, that he was making before and what it may look.
like to Kayla, is working nights and weekends and supplementing some of this. and I mean because even the margins of just living and you guys paying rent and eating and all of that right, regardless of paying off debt, just I'm not worried.
about Japan. off that right now. I'm worried about you, right, so that's what.
I'm saying is I think that maybe for a transitional period there's probably a reality, that he's gonna probably get a second job, until which is the prayer that this third, fourth month hits with his new job and then you're able to say okay, good, now we have, we have a foundation under us. so, and this is what.
we can go for, but two things that will help you with the level of fear, the terror rising up in your stomach, up into your throat. okay, thing number one is you need to carefully prioritize the money that you do have, and I'll do it for you right now. are you ready? we call it the four walls. when you're in a crisis and you're in a crisis, you got to keep the four walls of your house up, and that means first, number one food.
before you buy anything else, you buy groceries, not eating out. you guys can't afford to eat out. before you do anything else, you buy groceries without guilt. it's your primary job before you do anything. the second thing you do is you keep the lights and the water on utilities.
the third thing you do is you pay the rent before you do anything. you do those three things, and I think you've got enough to pull those off already. yeah, okay, and that means that means that some of the rest of this may not get paid this month because we made choices that of what was important versus what was less important. and then, as we get on down through there, I'm gonna pay a car payment because I need transportation, but MasterCard and student loans and protecting my credit are not on the list of things I worry about when I'm in your situation. okay, you're just gonna get behind with them.
if something has to be behind, choose the right thing to be behind, okay, and that's called unsecured debt. that's what you're the right thing is, and it's a bunch of other miscellaneous crap that's in your life that you just go. we just can't do that because we bought food, lights, water, rent car, food, shelter, transportation, clothing. you probably don't need any clothing. you're probably okay for a while, but you just get by you.
just get by you. just get by you. just get by, and then his income comes up or he changes jobs and his income comes up, and we start to make moves on these other things later, first catching up on anything that's behind and later doing that. but if you'll take care of food, shelter, clothing, transportation and utilities for you, do anything else, your peace level will increase. I know I was in your situation once, okay then?
secondly, the thing that goes with that is to budget, and again that's just on paper, on purpose. use the every dollar app. work with your husband and both of you. look at these numbers every night. we have enough for food, we have enough for lights and water, we're gonna pay the rent right here.
I'll pay the car payment right there. and when you're looking at the plan and you're executing the plan and forced ranked order of priority, it is going to give you peace, a lot more peace than you have right now, because right now you've got chaos on top of.
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so one of the best parts I love hosting.
with you. is the generational difference? okay, you're like a classic boomer, I'm a millennial, and the generation below me is Gen Z. okay, yeah, this on, yes, okay, okay. so this so that we're playing game, Dave, try not to make a face.
try not to make a face, I don't play. this came out in CNBC. calm, Oh brother. in fact, we started off ready. ready.
one and four Gen Z taxpayers say that they need a therapist now to deal with the stress of tax filing season. additionally, 54% filing taxes of Gen Z. they were brought to tears. they were brought to tears in the past or expect to cry this year over taxes. that's fabulous.
so I got one there. it's trauma, it's drama. got one word for you of realizing taxes, and they're, and this goes to therapy. I love therapy. I got one more for you vote.
oh my gosh, how do we?
turn this into that? well, I mean, where do you think taxes come from? I know you vote for, so try voting for somebody that don't like taxes. okay, yes, but regardless.
of party, you pay taxes. huh, regardless of party, you pay taxes. oh yeah, I know, yes.
I've been doing it a while, sure than others, but never cried, but we haven't hadn't hadn't seen a therapist for it, but been doing it a while anyways we.
read that in the content meeting right before the show, and I just thought like, oh no, we're crying. oh no, I mean the bar, you guys, it's so low like so low, like the next, like the next generation, though, like, seriously, if you just go to war and they do suck, taxes are not fun. oh I don't cry, I get angry, but you can, but you can do this, you can do this really angry. okay, so for that is it? is it as it from a boot?
I'm even scared to ask, from a boomers opinion, is it, is it that we haven't prepped every generation for what it looks like from like a workforce standpoint, the applications of being an adult like? is it that the reality hasn't been talked about or taught? or you know what? do we think that is for real, though, if one in four, Gen Z, so they have to go see a therapist because the amount of?
stress, because a tax file season. you know, there's a couple things possibilities there, because we've got 1,100 folks on our team and the vast majority of the people in this building are Gen Z. it's a lot of young people, Millennials. yeah, we have a young team. you know there's a few Xers and a very few boomers in the building.
okay, and so it's a, it's a. we've got a crew of these kind of people and, honestly, the people that work here aren't crying or seeing a therapist over their taxes. so I'm calling BS on the survey to start. oh, you're going to the source. I think, I think that these two generations have more tough people in them than that survey indicates, that that survey says the entire generations a bunch of wusses, and that's just not true.
that's not my experience with Gen Z, I don't. I find. I do find, and I've said this many times, and I said it on Fox last night, and it got all the hate people going again. but I was on Fox business yesterday afternoon, and so. but the Millennials got trashed for being participation trophy, living in their mother's basement, all that crap being, you know, avocado taste, toast, latte drinking, you know all that crap, and then some of that same kind of stuff is coming on to Gen Z and I.
I am not a hater of those two generations because my personal experience inside this building with the ones we have hired is quite different. I and I. and once a call here on the air. yeah, they call in the air. they're very mature, very serious, very focused, very missional.
now I do. I have observed on those two generations in particular that there's very little middle ground, they don't hang out in the middle, that they're either very serious, very missional, mature beyond their years, charge the gates of hell with a water pistol, or they absolutely suck. they're just horrible participation trophy, live in their mother's basement, useless, entitled, arrogant brats. and so they're either the best or they're the worst, the ones that we were. and they're great to interview.
because they'll just come into the interview and go. you owe me and I'm like I owe you where the front door is, hit it and it, the interviews over, or they come in and go, give me, put me in coach, I'll charge the gates. I want to do. I want to do work that matters, and Ramsey does work that matters, and I want to be part of this team. and they're really easy to interview.
but boomers come in and they lie, they fake it and they act like they're one of. they act like they think. you know they don't care. they care so much, much what you think that they they put on the chameleon. you know it's a, it's a donkey dressed up like a thoroughbred.
yeah, yeah. and they make you think, but the Gen Z, they don't give a crap. what you think they just they, just is what they is. I love them. I think they're awesome.
yeah, yeah. and so I don't believe that number. I don't think that that three out of four, seventy-five percent of the Gen Z are so wussified that they're sitting in the floor sucking their thumb, crying over their taxes. I think that's CNBC bullcrap. okay, well, I'm calling it.
I just don't do you observe that with those you know that we think that we. it's not a weakness, I do.
think that the I do think that, like your generation and an older there it there was more of a mentality of like you pull yourself up by your bootstraps, you get to work, you shut up, you do the thing and you just you go, go, go where the pendulum, I think, has swung so far in actually tapping in to some level of emotional awareness and comfortable with like, okay, what's really going on? you know trauma in my past. I will go, I seek help, like people you know to me like that, that's applauded, right. so there's more of that which I think, yeah, that's different than.
I'm crying for doing. I was gonna say some people see it as weakness not.
necessary, but I do think that the emotional state I'm crying for doing.
your taxes is straight-up weakness. yeah, that's not. yeah, that's just worst, but I.
do think that. I do think that the emotional space right, like even parenting. I'm a young parent and so, like you, hear the extremes of parenting and it's like oh well, are you sad about wearing a coat to school today? tell me about your son. you know, and it's this whole thing.
we're like you, just gotta wear a coat like. so I do. I do think that there is a level of where the emotions can drive a lot of things in life, more so than the boomer generation, if you.
wanted to. if you wanted to buy into some of the rhetoric on the stereotypes which I'm not sure I do I just did a good job of defending the generation. I think yeah.
the thing that has been thrown at them that could be true is they've never really had a hard time, so they're not tough. yes, I would say that's fair and well, and technology was done a lot of preaching and ranting lately about. teach your kids to do hard things. let them get a callous. teach your kids to do hard.
things and don't, don't be the bulldozer parent where you've paved the way, so.
everything's easy. and yeah, a helicopter followed by a bulldozer, yeah, whatever it is, yeah, cuz helicopters, we are sure, now create snowflakes. we're positive and I.
think it's more the bulldozing parents that clear the way. so there is no hard. they don't. yeah, they don't have any level of it. yeah, that we as parents we.
love our children. we want to make life good for them, but by not allowing them not making, not putting them in situations where they learn to do hard things. mm-hmm, they're not tough and cuz, like you, got to be a little tough.
sometimes, and Gen Z is the first generation where these smart phones. yep, like my generation, we always had flip phones like. I remember, flip phones like. the technology progressed, but I do wonder too with that, but anyway, oh I'm.
sure screens are at the at the heart of most evil, but I do what you know I do.
wonder, no question, you know anyways. oh, good discussion. so I like that you were.
like. I don't believe. I don't believe. see, that wasn't, for I mean, have we got the only 700 of them in the nation that are tough? I mean you know, really I don't believe that.
I mean I can. we got the people you and I work with every day. are not any of that? they're great? no, they're great.
yes, yes, this level, this is the Ramsey show.
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the phone numbers triple 8, 8, 2, 5, 5, 2, 2, 5 and Maria is next. Maria is in Reno. hi Maria, how are you?
how are you better than we deserve? what's up? well, first of all, it's a privilege to be able to ask this question, because I have been, I've been following your baby steps, and we did financial peace before I got married. so now we're stuck, though, because we went off script. so we're stuck because what we went off script I'm hoping it wasn't a stupid decision, but anyways it was good intention.
so we saved the 20% for a down payment, and at that time, just with family circumstances, we thought we would offer for my mom to come and find property with us, with two homes and whatnot, and kind of get her out of her situation, and there's a variety of reasons that played into that. but just you know, she could get out of debt, whatnot, pay for a house that she could live in without making payments and then be able to work and pay for her.
retirement and whatnot? so your mom and you went and bought a house together. so
what we did was we found property with two homes, but it is one parcel, but there's two homes on it and they both were fixer-uppers. still are. we're working on them, but at least where we're at, the dilemma at this point is.
how do we legally kind of sort all this out? because we we bought it. it was kind of like green lights all the way, and we we did counsel before we bought with a lawyer friend and some other friends of like. is this can we make this work like legally? how does you know?
how will this all go down? and they're like, yeah, we can sort it all out. so we felt like we had green lights and then we found this property and whatnot. but we went in. she went, went in 25% of the purchase price.
we went in 75%. we're all on title. but now we're just trying to figure out how to legally kind of sort this out. what's going in whose trust? how do we really figure out percentage of ownership like?
ideally she feels like for her retirement consideration she should keep a stake in real estate. the advice my husband I've received was buy her out and get her off title. it would be much simpler, and so we're kind of just like scratching our heads. it seems simple. I'm like hot, like positive, like we could figure this out going in, and now it just.
kind of seems muddy to us. so what you're saying is the council that you received sucked. well, it did. whoever this lawyer is, you're gonna stay away from him. he's stupid.
yeah, we'll figure it out later. that's a dumb butt plan. okay, because you got yourself in a pinch. now you know it's a man. you got a mess, you got a relational mess, you got a legal mess and you got a real estate mess and you got two houses under construction.
yes, we do. this is chaos and stress everywhere around it. oh my lord, what a mess. yeah, fire out, that's the cleanest. okay, so but.
if you were her, or if you were giving her advice, I guess I would take the.
money that and go, buy me something like you would leave. yeah, essentially yeah.
okay, just long-term consideration. yeah, because she's in a mess with her.
daughter. it's a mess who wants to be in a mess. this is a man ain't gonna clean up either. the only possible thing you can do and it, and I have no idea if you can pull this off in Reno, California or not. but check with the city and see if you can subdivide the parcel and run a lot line between them, have two parcels and then you could just deed her her half and and she owns it.
okay, and that way you lost some money, but you kind of deserve to know. I mean that is kind of.
why like let's, let's figure this out now, because if we have some front costs, we.
need to just swallow it and move on, but exactly, exactly okay. yeah, I'm serious. I mean I don't want to hurt your mom and you don't want to hurt your mom, and you know if, if you will, if you buy her out and you let her stay there, you're gonna have to have some clear family relational boundaries as to what the you know. you just gonna let her live there, free the rest of her life. what's the plan?
that's part of the buyout. I mean you got to. you got to lay out the terms of the buyout, see what you all didn't do is you you violated the begin with the end in mind principle, and that means you have to write out everything and every possible negative scenario ahead of time and have exit strategies on everything before you do the deal now. instead, you're trying to unring the bell yeah, and it's very difficult to do that. and so without, without, without a tearing, without people being hurt, and you know, because everybody, everybody in the whole thing's, got a bunch of different expectations.
yeah, what's her? what's her?
what is she thinking in office? is she concerned or is it more you guys are?
concerned on your end. honestly, in the threesome, it's probably just me, cuz I'm more of a long-term thinker. yeah, they're all more. like we can figure this out. um, when I'm wanting it done now, like you know, when are we all these people that?
keep saying we can figure this out. when is it they're gonna do it since they?
didn't do it beforehand. right now I hear you. I mean I'm on the call, right yeah.
yeah, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I mean I'm not picking on you. I'm just saying the decision overall and you're aware before you called is a mess and she's.
willing to do. I think she needs to take time to to look into, like just retirement planning in general. yeah, her first thought was like I need to keep a stake in real estate, but that wasn't like our thought going into it that that.
was going to be. so I would either subdivide the property and give her the half she lives on, and you have to get on a with most cities and municipalities. you go before the zoning board and they approve a parcel, a change in parcel, one parcel into two, dividing it, and it'll have to do with the zoning in the area. typically, you know, you're allowed to have so many square feet for a single family in that particular zone. it's an r5 and r2 or whatever, residential, whatever.
and so then the zoning board will tell you you have a surveyor, come out, survey, draw a lot, a new lot line between the two houses and with setbacks and everything, and it's all set up with a city and approved boom. then you deed it over to her. if that is not possible in the zoning situation you're sitting in, then I'd probably sell the whole property or buy her out, one of the two, because what you've got now it's not going to end well on. you can smell it in the air and that's why you're calling I'm sorry. I'm sorry you got yourself into this, but I do.
please clean it up. this is the Ramsey show.
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I'm a stay-at-home mom with two small children and I'm six months pregnant. my husband died suddenly last week. he handled all the finances. I lost touch with it when I got busy with the kids. I don't know if there's a will or life insurance.
I don't know the password of his computer. can you direct me to a checklist of how to get through this? I want to check the boxes, but I need guidance. I'm not googling what to do every night.
yes, man, Oh, grace. so I assume, James, that we have graces contact information, of course, because it's obviously not a radio answer for something this tragic and, yeah, in depth. so what we will do, grace, is we're gonna hook you up with one of our Ramsey counselors coaches that's been through our training. we're gonna pay for it, it won't cost you a dime. they're going to meet with you and walk, hold your hand and walk you through every bit of this, and they'll also connect you with a smart vest or Pro who can help guide you through the insurance issues and, and if there's any investing to be done, when all the smoke clears, so to speak, yeah, then then you know we can figure out what we're doing here.
but there's ways to discuss. there's a database you can tap into to find out if life insurance exists. there's not to find out about a will, but we, you know, the coach can. the coach will even help you get with a computer specialist to see if we can get the stinking computer open. so I'm so sorry, honey, what a horrible, horrible place to be left in, but you've got friends here and we will walk with you.
we are mandated by the book we believe in to take care of widows and orphans, and we will. we will. you can count on that. so I stick. but for people listening like when it's a.
situation like this, though, for real, what's the like? to even begin, because in my head I'm like yeah, you go down to like an IT. you know, first thing we try.
to do is get the computer open. yeah, hopefully that helps you find a will, if there is one, and find it, and any life insurance professional can help you with the database. I can't remember the name of it off the top of my head, but there's a the. there's a search you can do and it costs like five dollars. or to be able to go in and find, see if there's anything showing up on life insurance.
obviously, if there's any file drawers or any hard, hard paper areas, you go through those and try to find wills and life insurance or anything depending on the assets and the debt and so forth. you may need to contact an attorney and do a probate. you may not. he may not have left anything. obviously we've got to start taking.
the primary thing I hear right here is I've got figure out how you're gonna eat and feed children. a pregnant lady is gonna feed two small kids in, you know, next week. yeah, because I have no idea where money's coming from at this point. so I need, I need to assess how much money we've got, where we've got it, where how we can create some money. contact local church to come around you, make sure you got food.
you know we've got to do all these things and just put our arms around you and love you well. so there's so many things here and if.
there is family. a lot of these situations you end up just selling and going with me. you know, being with family, yeah, as a safety net, yeah, for a season.
not as a permanent thing, but it'll get to get on your feet after this. but yeah, googling Google probably can't help you, hun, I don't think mr. Google is gonna send much love your way. so what this does illustrate, though, is why it's so important for couples to handle their money together, why it's so important to have a will with a central location where everyone knows where it is. in the same place.
we call it a legacy drawer. at our house, I've got a file drawer that's got all the wills and the trusts and the life insurance and the car titles and the so forth. all of my passcodes are in a system on my computer, and three family members three people know where it is and they can all open it if something happens to me. so Sharon's not trapped out and all the different nine million. we've all got passwords to everything in the world, and so you gotta be able to access every bit of that and so, and it's even small things of you.
know what bills are automated? which ones are you paying directly? you know I.
mean like. that's why you need to be involved in the yes process together. you should always be handling your money together. and so I've got a friend in his 70s that just passed and I'm walking with his wife, one of our best friends. for some 40 or 50 years now we've been friends and you know she's very, very smart woman but was not very involved in the day to day mm-hmm.
and so she's having to learn how to do all of that at 70 years old. now, yeah, and so you got it's. you know it's the only way that that it minimum it. yeah, it's having life insurance, having a will, having a game plan. working together is how you say I love you.
not participating together is not how you say I love you. that's not right. and so it leaves people in the situation. this poor lady here and I understand, I mean she's pregnant got to look baby, she didn't have time to mess with it, she couldn't breathe. she got.
you know, the little, the littles take everything out of you, yeah, when you got a situation like that, but still this, it leaves you so vulnerable and it's just sad. so well, we'll be with you, darling, and you guys out there can know that Ramsey takes care of these situations when we run across them. that's for sure a hundred percent of the time we have for 35 years of doing this and we will continue to do that. and yeah, widows and orphans, this is the Ramsey show.
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it's designed for that and part of it is the debt-free stage. and on the debt-free stages miss Katie. hi, Katie, how are you good? how are you better than I deserve? where do you live?
I live in Dallas, Texas. very fun, and how much debt have you paid off, Katie?
eighty thousand six hundred and thirteen dollars and fifty four cents. I love it.
and how long did that take? you just under 12 months, whoa, and your range of?
income. during that time, I started out making twenty nine thousand dollars a little more, and then, this year, it shot up to a hundred and thirteen thousand six hundred dollars. Wow, what do you do for a living? I'm a registered nurse, so
you've been walking. yeah, a lot, a lot. did you just get out of nursing school? yes,
so that's what started this whole thing. yeah, and my debt was entirely just a student loan from a one-year nursing program. oh my god, and you paid off in.
one year. in one year you did it. so you, you have lived on beans and rice. exactly these numbers are. I mean, like you're the coupon Queen, you're, have no life, all you.
did was work and pay debt. I know I'd go bother people for their shifts or part of their shifts. my favorite was the 3 a.m. to 7 a.m. because you got your overtime, you got weekend pay, you got the bonus pay.
it was awesome working around the clock. what kind of nurse are you? I am a pediatric emergency room nurse. Wow, well, thank you for my mom of three littles. yeah, good for you what.
rewarding work too, yes, and sometimes terrifying, but yeah, yeah, but yeah, Wow.
look at you. so what happened a year ago when you got out of nursing school you?
got. why'd you get so fired up and how'd you get in touch with this Ramsey stuff?
so I was crazy and decided that was my second college degree, my first one. my parents paid for shout out and then I just wanted to be a nurse. and I wanted to be a nurse as fast as possible, and that required taking out a little bit of money. and then, after I finished nursing school and I was introduced by my boyfriend, Kyle, and he would just start playing the podcast like when we'd be in the car, it was super like, low-key, like it was never like. hey, I think you should do this.
it was, oh hey, we're gonna listen to the background music. and then I got kind of interested and then it became my like guilty pleasure. after work, I'd go home and sit in my bed after working night shift and I'd put on the show before and I'd work from home and I work from home job. so there's my two jobs. oh yeah, tons, I did everything under the moon.
like I was, I was ready to work. I knew nursing school like as hard as everyone says it was. I was ready to work harder when I got out and I think the idea of, oh my god, I just took out all this money and I'm gonna have this payment for 20 years, hmm, was so scary. so very nice. good for you.
what was the most lucrative side? hustle you did. I was a big instacart girl. okay, that was. it was really awesome.
we live a little bit north of like the Highland Park area and there's lots of people who, like their groceries, delivered there. you were there, but the.
best thing of all, pay-wise, was the 3 a.
m. to 7 a.m. overtime, triple time, all that.
stuff. oh yeah, I'd work four or five, six days in a row, like at one point my manager was like are you okay, slow down, I don't work this much. I'm like I love it. way to go, how's it feel to be free? it's crazy.
I would let my paycheck hit my account. I'd take her just my basic four walls. I lived like I still was in college and buy anything, didn't really do anything, and then that same day I.
drained my account to Sallie Mae mm-hmm and a big old chunk of go down every.
week every month. yeah, it's crazy. and then all of a sudden we got to the end and I was like, what do I do with all this money? can I stop working as hard? yeah, that's right, that's right, good for you, okay.
so what was the hardest part? like? that's a full year, 12 months, of just doing that, getting it. I think the hardest part was watching everyone else. just a lot of my friends at work would buy new cars or people would come in with new things, they'd go out, and I was like, oh, like that'd be really fun, but like, that's not for me, like it's hard, not yet.
yeah, not yet it was hard. I think really just the hardest part was kind of.
watching the world go on yeah, harder, at the beginning or the end, I'd say.
probably about the middle, because I beginning, you're all fired up. yeah, I was.
gonna end. you can see the light, yeah, but in the middle it's like I'm stuck yeah.
yeah, and it was so. it was like summer ish and everybody was doing all these fun things. I was like I gotta go pick up another shift, I gotta go deliver some groceries. I got a lot, okay. so would you tell people, Katie because a lot of people you know their their journey of getting out of debt looks so different, right, and someone listening that's thinking, okay, I want to dive in.
I want to do this. would you recommend, if they have the ability like you, just go full force, short amount of time, all the pain, but it's short. or like you could spread this out for 24 months and it's less pain, but it's gonna take a little bit longer. I've always been like a super go-getter. so I mean as long as you mark a clear finish line, guns blazing, you can just go.
she's a rip the band-aid off.
girl? yeah, we don't, we don't. yeah, you don't want her being your nurse if there's a band-aid involved. yeah, it's like pop. yeah, oh, sorry about that.
yeah, we're done. that's so great. I love it. who was your biggest cheerleaders, my biggest?
cheerleader by far was my boyfriend, Kyle. where is he? is he here? he's over here, there you are. she's great.
we love Katie, and then all my family. that's here, oh.
you brought your family. they're all super proud of you too. then. very good, anybody tell you you're crazy. while you're doing it, most of the nurses I know well you're.
it's kind of a stark contrast for them to have to stand next to you. yeah, they're going. I'm standing neck-deep in my stupid and doing nothing about it, and this girl's cleaning it up. it's a little bit shaming just having you around. you're amazing.
you are a warrior princess and you're making like.
113. I mean I guess it's with some of the side hustles. so you like, did some of that. but as a nurse, but I'm like you're, you're gonna make great money. no payments, there's lots of money.
if you want to go after, that's right. that's right. good for you. Katie, how old are you 25? I did, I did it, my goal was my 25th birthday and I was like 10 days early.
Wow, awesome congratulations, so great, hey.
you're a hero. we're proud of you. well done, kiddo. very, very, very well done. you're a warrior princess.
that's pretty amazing. good stuff, man, good stuff. don't get in this girl's way. Wow, Wow, just get after it, get it. she's a living proof.
my granny sayings true, there's a great place to go when you're broke to work. oh my gosh. Wow, fabulously done, all right, it's Katie from Dallas. 81,000 paid off in 12 months, starting at 29 when she got out of school all the way to 113 and the secret sauce work. count it down.
oh, we've got a couple of every dollar coupons for you to give you a one-year subscription and you can give one away as a friend. one of those nurses needs a subscription. there we go, count it down. let's hear your debt-free scream all right, three, two, one.
yeah, this is how it's done. boys and girls, I love it. yes, yes, the family is sure. oh my gosh, this is the Ramsey show.
our scripture of the day 1st John 514. this is the confidence we have in approaching God, that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. Vince Lombardi said confidence is contagious. so is lack of confidence. Laura is with us in st.
Louis. hi, Laura, welcome to the Ramsey show. hi y'all, thank you for.
taking my call, I'll just get straight to my question. so we just found out that our tax person has done our taxes incorrectly the past three years. so we owe back taxes. we're on baby step to you. don't have a ton of money and we are debating on whether or not we should take out a personal loan to cover this or if we should set up a payment plan with the IRS.
take out a personal loan.
okay. the worst creditor on the planet is the IRS. they have almost unlimited power. they misuse it and abuse it. they charge the highest penalties and the highest interest.
they're not bankruptable personal loans, or none of those, okay.
all right, that's what I figured you today. I just wanted to make sure, yeah.
nice, no follow-up question. yeah, let me ask one how the crap did you not know?
your taxes were screwed up for three years. so my husband is a pastor and we assume they were doing the his taxes correctly, because they're, they're different. and we just assumed they knew what they were doing. and but how did you find it? they discovered it that we had said something about his portion of the taxes this year.
we had said it the first year and they must have missed it. and yeah, I don't know, it is a cluster. yeah, Wow, Wow, okay, so you think you've got it.
solved or do you need a new tax person? no, I think they've got it figured out.
yeah, we're looking at about 18,000. I think that's enough to make me get.
somebody I was about to say, or get a second opinion, Laura too, it'd be worth it to have somebody else just to make sure all your bases are covered. yeah.
well, the the benefit of them was they were free, but and they were worth every penny. you know a lot of stupid people are okay my follow-up question though.
should we go to our our bank? let me tell you what's even worse. they go to your church. yeah, okay, yeah, that's, that's even worse. yeah, get a new tax person.
okay, anyway, how can I help? what's the other question should we go through our bank?
we have US Bank for that we bank with. should we go through a credit union instead or through our bank? what would be better? you think credit union okay in?
general. in general they're more human that now. a small-town, local bank is fine, but I'm a credit union versus a big bank. we don't ever recommend anyone. do business with the mega banks, the, you know, the Bank of America's, the fifth thirds.
they have no soul and your credit unions got a soul. your small-town local banks got a soul. yes, they're bankers, but but they they, you know there's a human element to them. there you're not just a number where you're.
like you are with these other banks, when does the point with IRS debt, would you say, to go take out a personal loan versus trying to pay it off always?
unless you can write check right now and pay it, you got it. yeah, I would not have IRS debt versus personal debt, mm-hmm. yeah, always because they're just. they're unpredictable too, because they're, they're incompetent and so they're liable to do something they're not supposed to do, like go just clean out their account or something. yeah, yeah, and honestly, they don't usually do that, but I've run into it over the years.
so, and they have, and there's nothing that you don't have any recourse because they're just. they have unlimited power, mm-hmm. every other debt has to sue you before they start taking stuff. the IRS just shows up and starts taking stuff, and so it's just. it's brutal, yeah.
and and then, on the other side of it, they vote me a refund for four years. I can't get out of them. I'm gonna have to go before Congress to get my refund. so it's unbelievable. and it's not a refund cuz I overpaid.
it's a refund because the law changed and we adjusted our taxes and then they're just sitting on it under the Biden administration. we got all our refunds under the Trump administration on the same thing, but the Biden bunch is just sitting on it over there and it's yeah, okay, all right, Tracy's with us in New York City. hi Tracy, how are you good?
thank you. thank you so very much for taking my call. sure, I'm 51 years old and unfortunately I just heard about y'all. like a week ago, through a friend, she told me to give y'all a call. I need help with my retirement.
I only have $100,000 in there and my job they doesn't match. they don't be matching. okay, what do you make? Oh, 103, but I take care of a sibling who's bipolar and deals with a lot of.
issues mm-hmm. do you have debt Tracy? yes, how much that do you have? oh, I'm sorry.
the only debt that I have is my condo, and I owe $200,000. okay, originally, when I got it, the interest rate was like 4.89, but I was able to refinance it when the rates went down. so my rate now is 2 to something. so instead of lowering my payment, I just kept it at the same payment that I was paying. gotcha, yeah, I.
mean at this point, Tracy I, I would be funding 15% of your income into retirement. I would get to a point where I'm throwing as much as I can to get your to get this condo paid off. so you have paid for real estate, you're still funding and you're I mean you're, you have $100,000. I mean you have a really great start. some people that call and have nothing saved for retirement.
so at least there's something there. and then who? and you said it's a sibling that you take care of. yes, and how old are they? he's 32, 32.
does he live with you? no, that did not work out very well. yes, yeah, I would assume. so no, so Rachel's right.
what we teach is a process called the baby steps. you need an emergency fund of three to six months of expenses, since you're debt-free other than the house. then you need to be putting 15% of your income $15,000 a year, $16,000 a year into your retirement plan. getting all the match, it should be in Roth, if it can be, if you're, if you max out your 401k at work, which you shouldn't be doing, but if you do and you need to do more, you can do a Roth with one of our SmartVestor pros. but you need to get to $16,000 a year.
everything else beyond $16,000 a year that you have left in your budget should go to pay off your condo early. okay, as quick as you get the condo paid off, I want you to max out all retirement, because our goal here is, sometime in the next 15 years, when you're 66, I want the condo paid off and a huge pile of money in your nest egg. okay, I think you're gonna be a millionaire. I hope so. yeah, I think you are.
if you will do what I just told you to do, I think you're gonna be a.
millionaire. okay, awesome, thank you. thank you so much. you're very smart and you're.
very kind to take care of the sibling. the way you are. good work, very good work. and it's just a reminder for the rest of you out there, Rachel, that it is amazing that as we studied 10,000 millionaires, we found that the typical millionaire out of the 10,000, which is almost all of them, like 80 something percent, fell in this category. they had funded their 401ks and their Roths steadily in good growth stock mutual funds and they paid off their house.
and so a very typical scenario would be we'd have a 600 $700,000 paid-for house and you'd have a six or seven or an eight hundred thousand dollar nest egg that was built, and that's where, exactly where she's going to be, yeah, and you know then, so if you put you know, like seven and eight together, you've got 1.
5 million dollar net worth and so $700,000 paid-for house and a $800,000 nest egg. and that's that's about where she's headed with the number she just gave us, yeah and her.
company didn't match, and so our the 15%. even if your company does match, does not include the employers match yeah, so it's 15% of your money, of your money, that's.
a valid point. very good, but my but the big deal is is that you can do it, that that's. everybody says oh well, you know the economy and the Biden and the and the Trump in the, in the, the world, and it's just bad on capitalism's evil. and we need anarchy and socialism and communism, like my college professor taught me. and all this bullcrap out there.
and you know the truth is the little man is getting ahead at a faster rate, a better rate in the United States of America than at any country, in any culture in any time in the history of man. you have a better opportunity today than you've ever had. so stop your whining and go, do it, get after it. that puts us our of the Ramsey show in the books. we'll be back with you before you know it.
in the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace, and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus.
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